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Jessica
Just Said Yes September 2019

Panic/anxiety/meds-need help

Jessica, on June 6, 2019 at 7:48 PM Posted in Fitness and Health 0 12
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Hi lovelies! I am really struggling right now and hope someone can relate and help. I have been with my fiance for 11 years, engaged for 2. My mother was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer right after I began planning originally so I put things on hold. I had gotten off my antidepressants around the same time because I felt I no longer needed them. I overcame a lot this last year to try and heal from the meds. (I had a bad withdrawal coupled with external stress).
I struggled with the idea of elopement vs a wedding because of money and my anxiety issues.

We decided last week to hire a wedding planner for a 20 person intimate ceremony in my grandpas backyard. I can just barely afford it. I am planning it in a 3 month period because of my mothers health. As soon as I signed the contract I became overwhelmed with dread and worry. Which turned to horrifying panic. I ended up with severe stomach issues which havent ended. My anti anxiety meds dont help.
I saw my doctor and she gave me a script for the med I was on previously. I am so scared it will not work in time, or make things worse for me. I also am scared to start a med just because of a trigger like this. But I want to be able to enjoy my day and the planning and be able to function for work. Right now I literally cannot.

Has anyone had to get on an antidepressant to get through their wedding? I'm feeling extremely ashamed and weak. I know it will go by so fast and I am so grateful but it is deteriorating my health which I worked so hard to build up.

Any advice is greatly appreciated. I am in therapy, do yoga, meditate, take supplements, good diet, no alcohol and I still cant shake this.

Should I keep riding it out? Or does it usually get worse the closer to the wedding you get? Much thanks and love.

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Latest activity by Jessica, on June 9, 2019 at 5:43 PM
  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    Put wedding planning on the back burner and take care of yourself first! I'm on medication for anxiety, so don't be ashamed to get an antidepressant. This does not make you weak at all! It can really improve your quality of life, so seriously look into getting a prescription. Sending you so much love and support Smiley heart

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  • Anna
    Super April 2020
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    I hope thos doesnt make you think I'm being too pushy. i also suffer from anxiety. I get real bad stomach pain too that I stopped eating. I was even scared to leave my house. Leaving my bed would put me in a panic. I didn't know i had it until so many drs couldnt find anything wrong with me. I finally got help mentally. I never wanted to take meds. if you need em go for it but I didn't want to be addicted to those nor feel like I had to take those for the rest of my life. I went to see a cognitive behavioral therapist. Those help you deal with everyday situations. That was 8 years ago and I still havent taken any meds.
    Also, with all this, I accepted Christ. I know I got better because He helped me. Whenever I feel like I wanna get one, I go pray and I get a reassurance that God is with me. It's the most beautiful feeling. Just remember you're not going die. No one dies from panic attacks. I'll be praying for you. But look for a therapist that is really going to help you.
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  • Rebeca
    Dedicated October 2020
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    There’s no shame in taking antidepressants. I suffer from anxiety too. If this medication has worked for you not the past, why not give it another try? Just keep in mind it may take up to 4 weeks for you to see a difference.
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  • Gabrielle
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    I have never been prescribed for medication to help me with anxiety or depression, but I know three things that helped me move through the depression: talking to close friends about my struggles and asking them to give you encouragement; writing out my feelings and fears in a prayer journal; and praying to Jesus Christ. Positive self-talk can also be good for your health, as well as laughing a lot.
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  • Alyrae
    Super February 2020
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    I agree with rebeca .... i too suffer from anxiety i also have bipolar disorder and autism so i get u and was on medication sinse i was 14 and i had to be off my medication when i was pregnant..... and i didnt want to go back on my meds after birth .... but then i started to get post partum depression and have to go back on my meds .... they r the same meds i was on before .... dont ever be ashamed of having to take meds again for anxiety is a life long illness and u unfortunately will always have to deal with it ..... just remember there r friends and family who love u and will support u .... u just have to talk to them .... i hope u wellness and happiness.
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  • Stephanie
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    I accidentally dropped my antidepressant dosage right after I got engaged. I didn’t notice it for a few weeks, but then it became very obvious! I had to go back to my full antidepressant dosage. There’s no shame in needing that. Wedding planning is super stressful and often comes with other big life changes. My family, friends, and faith all help, but none of them have cured my depression and anxiety. Do what you need to so you can be healthy. This stuff is crazy hard. Hang in there!
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you so much Cher. I cant believe how much I was torturing myself over this. With all of the supportive comments here I was able to take the dose last night (just half actually) and felt marginally better today. I know that's nearly impossible to work this quickly but I'm hoping my body remembers the meds and I'll have relief soon. Thanks so much for sharing your experience as well. X
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you Anna for your encouragement and reply! I have been in therapy for over a year now trying to battle through and get to my issues myself, and although no raised religiously I have turned to God many times in my darkest times and have found relief. Unfortunately this became too much to bare and I decided to go back on my medicine for now. It is just the right choice for me. I am so happy you have found what works for you!!
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  • Jessica
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    Thank you so much stephanie. I did decide to go back on and am hoping it gives me some relief. I deeply appreciate you sharing with me. It helps so much to know I'm not alone in these feelings. Although I'm sorry you also have suffered. Xx
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  • Stephanie
    Dedicated August 2019
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    It can be really frustrating and difficult. It makes me doubt everything I know is true sometimes. I am beyond grateful for my fiance’s understanding when I spiral. It doesn’t help that I’m also leaving a job I love after 5 years, interviewing for new jobs, leaving my apartment of 4 years, moving to a house I will be renting with my fiancé in another city, changing churches, changing health care teams, changing my name, etc. It’s an insane time! We will both get through this and it will be great!! ❤️
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  • Anna
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    I'll keep praying for you. Dont see this as a setback, see this as a speedbump in your life. Just know that every little thing is a victory. Just getting out of bed is a big one. Just remember to think positive. I know weddings can be stressful, but think that your marrying your best friend. All this stress is worth it.
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  • Jessica
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    I can relate with your statement of doubting If everything we know is true right now. It sounds like you are also going through a lot of huge life changes. You are right though, I know in my heart, we will get through this. Stay strong and best of luck in all of your new adventures. X
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