Over kill ???

Personally, that sounds like serious overkill. If that was required of me in a bridal party, I would have had to stand down. I can barely spend that on myself on a good day. That's all bill money for me.

And I just had a baby in Jan lol

View Quoted Comment It’s making me anxious also I just recently had a baby

I'd be real with her. Tell her you're not sure how much more your financially going to be able to afford at this pace. Give her all kinds of support but explain your bank needs to recover for awhile before making another costly purchase.

Wow!!!! That’s a lot of money!!!! I’d have said no the minute I knew 3K to attend... I’m having a DW and I haven’t asked my girls yet but their stay would be $600ish for a minimum 3 night stay plus their flight... plus “demanded” yeah no thanks!

It seems like it's a lot of her to ask.
But $250 on an engagement gift seems like a choice you made.
I'm sure she was just excited to have bridesmaid dresses picked out and excited to get everyone to have them.
Maybe figure out what events you can and can't afford to do and discuss them with her.
If you decide you can't do this, let her know as soon as possible.

I would back out so fast. All that money is ridiculous.

Over kill for sure!!! I honestly don’t even like expecting my girls to pay for everything themselves and plan everything. I want them there and I want everyone to feel comfortable and it unfortunately sounds like your bride is the opposite. I hope this isn’t a bed experience for you. Best of luck

This does sound like overkill to me. Did she speak with you all individually and ask what your budget was for the bridesmaid dress and also for a bachelorette trip? Also, requesting the gifts and requesting the parties rubs me the wrong way. It's one thing if someone plans an engagement party, shower, and/or bachelorette party, but I feel that it is something that friends/family take upon themselves to throw, not something the bride should request of people to throw.

I would never spend that much money on a wedding that far out. In my experience weddings that are planned like this rarely come to fruition. If any of the stuff is refundable, I’d get my money back and now out.

Am I understanding this?! In the past 3 months, you'd spent $1600 on being on your friend's wedding?! Seriously? And there are still more expenses to come?

This is so overkill! If that was me, I would have backed out already. This is too much money I have to spend.

View Quoted Comment Yes another 6,000 by October for destination booking

View Quoted Comment She does not consider budget she simply text message all her brides maid what she wants lol bridezilla to the max

View Quoted Comment I’m worried I agree I feel like the haste in planning could be due to behind the scene relationship issue ever other day she is telling me she doesn’t want to marry her boyfriend then next day acting like nothing happened... I feel as though she wants a wedding not a marriage

View Quoted Comment The awkward part is we can afford it and she knows that perhaps why she is requesting events typically out of her budget because she knows the bridal party she chose are more financially stable than she is should I give her w

View Quoted Comment Should we budget events for her budget? I feel tacky doing that but am starting to resent her demands for things she wouldn’t typically afford

We are having a destination wedding and it is costing the wedding party more than if it is local. However, that goes for guests too. It is just what comes from having a destination wedding.

My bridesmaids dresses were about $330. I loved the dress for so long, but I had told my bridal party beforehand and made sure they were okay with the price. I told them that it really catered to everyone since at the time my cousin was pregnant and sizing/ordering a regular bridesmaid dress would have been difficult. I also told them that if they thought it was too much or did not like it, that was totally fine and we will keep looking. They are also paying for hair and makeup. I wanted to pay for it, but I can not afford it, but I did tell them that they are not obligated to go with the person I am having mine done (or they can do their own if they would like to).

I am not having a bachelorette party, but you also do not have to go. I am doing a bridal shower, but they are splitting the cost between themselves for which I am very grateful. I do not expect them to give a bridal shower or wedding day gift at all considering it is a destination wedding and they are paying for accommodations.

That is insane. There is no way I would ask that much of people, or be able to do that much for a bride.

IMHO, Destination Weddings are frequently a way for bride and groom to push costs on the guests, including bridal party. I would not pay a nickel more if I agree to attend DW, unless bride or groom was immediate family. I would say no.