Out of state maid of honor?

My MOH is flying from another continent and I'm so grateful that she's taking 16 hrs international flights to attend my wedding. I don't care if she will wear a bridesmaid dress, host any event or help me with any wedding project. I just want her to show up and stand by me. MOH is the person you want to honor. Pick someone you won't regret sharing your special day with.

My MOH lives in Tennessee. I live in Washington. But she's my best friend and I couldn't imagine anyone else up there with me. She's been wonderful and always willing to give an opinion on wedding stuff over the phone or text. She was kind enough to ask if I would like her to plan a shower or bachelorette party. But by no means did I expect that since she is very busy.

I was literally in the same situation. I ended up choosing both (my cousin and best friend) for my MOHs. They get along great so it has worked out so far. They coordinate over the phone, scheduling the bachelorette and bridal party stuff!

I seriously don't understand- either she's important enough to stand by you at your wedding or not.

My bestie is in NC- I live in NJ- she's constantly travelling- including over seas- and is outside of communication for long stretches of time because she's in the military.

Her ONLY responsibility is to show up. I didn't even give her a dress to pick- I said wear something nice.

boom done.

It was more important to ME that she bet there- Not that she feel badly she was far away and couldn't help- or participate. I didn't want to stress her out- because she's my friend. I just need her there.

Think about her- and what she thinks of all that?

is it more important you have a lacky to do shit for you because you ask them or they feel obligated or that you have the people who are important to you standing up with you?

My MOH lives in Georgia - I'm in Colorado. She has 3 young children. I asked her, she accepted and the only thing she has to do is show up in a black dress. I run things by her to get her opinion and the whole thing is working out just fine. Talk to your cousin. If she can swing it financially maybe you can have 2 MOH.

I live in Missouri and my sister is my MOH and she is 12 hours away from me. I have some very close friends here of course because I grew up her, but my sister is my MOH and I wouldn't have it any other way. You MOH and BP is there for the bride your FH has his GM and BM for his support. I say it should be your cousin..... I think your friend here would help you anyway if she is a BM. Wishing you the best.

I will never understand the women who pick their bridal parties based on what these people will do for them, or who will do more for them. Ew.

My entire bridal party lived in other states as myself and the wedding, but these were the people I am closest to and who I wanted standing with me on my wedding day.

I have a BM that lives in another state. And my MOH leaves for grad school a week before my wedding. She's flying back for rehearsal dinner and wedding. My other BM is in med school and could only get time off for the wedding and missed big events.

My mom helped a lot (financially and hosting at her house) to make it easier for MOH.

And out of state BM sent me cards for each event and a really cute bridal tee, that I wore to things she missed and sent her pics in.

I would choose your cousin and make it work. It worked out for me!

I have two MOH, one lives near me and the other is far away in California. I can't imagine not having her as my MOH even though she's unable to attend any of the pre-wedding events. Her being there on the wedding day is enough

Thanks everyone for all your advice, you guys are very helpful. Glad to know it's easier than I thought. Still learning all this stuff!

I was the MOH for my best friends wedding and I live 3 states away. I was still able to help plan her shower and bach even though I wasn't able to show up to both. The only requirements are to buy a dress and show up, you can pick whoever you want for your MOH.

Literally every one of my 6 brides maids lives in a different state. My sister (MOH) lives in Texas and I'm in Nevada. I traveled to anything that was thrown for me. She can still be a support system over the phone. I don't think the distance should be a problem.

MOH designation doesn't matter on their address. Pick your closest friend to stand by you. The distance isn't the problem here. It seems like you either want a glitter covered slave or an audience for every little thing. Neither are appropriate.

@Bernadette you may want to lurk more before giving advice.

My MOH lives in a different state and so do all my BMs. I literally don't expect a single thing from them. I just want them there with me. There's no duties.

Oh god Bernadette... No no no.