Our big day is overshadowed by someone's last wedding!

What the hell..... You can do what ever you want. Why would anything that happened at their wedding effect those decisions? Still to what you want.

Not overshadowed in the same way (not bc of drama) but the last 2 weddings I have attended (1 family, 1 friend) we're over the top expensive (one 100 ppl and 35K+, the other 200 ppl and easily 65k+). Some ideas you see done... and then you seem them done big (like in the most outrageous and expensive ways) its almost like you dont want to do it because it will remind you and other attendees (esp family) of the other person's wedding and how in that regard it can't compare. Lets be honest everyones wedding is different BUT there are a lot of similar things that are popular right now (photobooths, bling-ed out dresses, videos, and candy/sweet table). Not saying I am nixing anything from my plans but I feel where you're coming from

Seriously?...,

This makes no sense. People don't remember colors and decorations from other weddings and those things have nothing to do with any drama that occurred. Just do what you want.

I would not change a damn thing. If your aunt walks into Macy's and they have a bedspread in a certain color in display does she break down in tears....come on. This sounds ridiculous.

Don't change a thing. Tell the people to put on big girl/boy undies and grow the F up! It s your day and they need to respect that.

I don't see why this should affect your wedding..

Ummm...seriously? she cuts herself off from the family and now they are telling you that you have to do things a certain way because of it?

do you talk to this cousin? I wonder if she just used the excuse to cut herself off from the family! people do that-

I don't think you are going to really be able to succeed in keeping everyone happy- I bet if you did everything the exact opposite, someone would still be reminded of that wedding and be sad somehow. then all your walking on egg shells would be for nothing.

I agree with others, just do what you want, dont tell your aunt about it and just let her know that you love her no matter what. if that's not good enough, then so be it! not your fault.

don't take on everyone else's feelings as your responsibility, because it's just not!

I know it will be difficult not to worry but it IS your wedding and it should be what you and your fiance wants. I don't tell many people about what we plan, what my dress looks like, what we chose to serve...mainly because I don't want to hear what they think or disapprove of. Stop asking their opinion or sharing your ideas...especially if they are going to constantly tell you no.