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Savvy July 2015

Open bar is not an option, don't like the tackiness of a cash bar

Blake, on February 5, 2015 at 1:19 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 109

My fiancee's father gave us a budget of $10,000 (can go over a little if needed), but we're already at the limit on the essentials and we'd like to have alcohol at our reception (original plan was to have a dry reception). At this point an open bar for 150 people is just beyond possible for the...

My fiancee's father gave us a budget of $10,000 (can go over a little if needed), but we're already at the limit on the essentials and we'd like to have alcohol at our reception (original plan was to have a dry reception). At this point an open bar for 150 people is just beyond possible for the budget, and I don't really want to have a cash bar since I don't want to ruin the vibe, so here's a situation I'd be curious to have your feedback on.

Would you feel it was tacky or odd or whatever for there to be a cash bar, but then at each table of 8 there are a couple or few bottles of wine on ice for the dinner and toasts?

I was hoping this would be acceptable because then people can at least have some wine if they want it, and then if they still wanted more alcohol then they at least have the option of the cash bar.

109 Comments

  • Kemmie
    VIP May 2015
    Kemmie ·
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    Not all Canadians have cash or toonie bars. That's a west coast thing for whatever reason. We don't play that in Ontario. BOOZE FOR EVERYONE!!!

    To the OP I say have a limited bar.

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  • Kelly
    Dedicated January 2016
    Kelly ·
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    We are doing an open bar because it's only $1/head more than the beer/wine option. That was what our original plan was. If you can't swing anything, cash bar is fine. I would do that over a dry bar any day, if your friends and family are like mine. Smiley smile

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  • Monica SC
    Master October 2015
    Monica SC ·
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    SO......my DJ has a link to this post on his FB business page! Just clicked on it and linked right here. Yep

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  • Kat
    Dedicated October 2015
    Kat ·
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    One keg is going to have about 124 pints in it, and each wine bottle has about 5 glasses of wine in it, so you might want to have more like 30-35 bottles of wine ($2 Chuck, anyone?) and an extra pony keg on hang to cover everyone, but then you should have 150 people covered, easily!

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  • MeowBrides
    Savvy February 2015
    MeowBrides ·
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    It's a nice gesture to try the bottles on the table for toasts and dinner but I like the "limited bar" idea that was suggested to an amount that you can afford as a first option. Just make sure you tell guests ahead of time so they bring cash.

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  • B
    Savvy July 2015
    Blake ·
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    @Monica that's interested, why did he do that? Not that I mind, I'm just curious.

    @Kat I used an online calculator to figure I'd need about 1 keg and up to 30 bottles of wine, so I think you're about right too. I actually over estimated with the calculator, because most of my guests will not be drinking, so really I'm only serving alcohol to like 75ish at a max.

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  • JenniferandRick
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    @Kemmie - you say "Not all Canadians have cash or toonie bars. That's a west coast thing for whatever reason."

    i've heard of many EAST coast toonie and cash bars.

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  • I am Mrs. rjd
    Super September 2016
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    I'm not trying to rain on anyone's parade, but according to Emily Post's wedding etiquette, you never have a cash bar at a wedding, it's considered rude. Personally, I don't care what anyone else does, it's not my wedding, I'm just saying what I read in the etiquette book.

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  • Original VC
    Master July 2015
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    I didn't read all the other comments so I apologize if someone already mentioned this, but I would worry about the awkward moment where the keg runs out and people start having to pay - will you have your MC announce the change? How will that work?

    My FH and I are combining a few options. We'll have two wine bottles on the table, and giving 3 drink tickets per person, the rest will be a cash bar. I hadn't thought of what other people posted, though (how we'll end up with half-empty bottles), so I'm considering whether it'd be a good idea to put just one wine bottle per table and have the rest of the bottles on a table on the side for people to grab.

    By the way, we don't want to profit on our guests with the cash bar (we're pricing the drinks pretty much at cost). We would have wished to have an open bar, but we can't afford it. I don't mind if other posters think I'm tacky - none of them are coming to my wedding Smiley smile

    Blake, I too think that you've been very polite and classy given what people have told you Smiley smile

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