Only one. Single. Decline. RSVP freak out.

My nightmare. But that is nice that everyone wants to come. Glad you have the space when all is said and done!

SMH...glad you have the space too.

Yes our decline rate is very very low. Maybe 4 or 5 people total. A few are coming to ceremony and not reception and we are still missing about 1/3 of RSVP's. Our guest count is what we projected the total and climbing.. OYE..... So glad I booked the bigger room that holds over 120 people because we are at about 140 now.

I'm the same 145 invited, hoping for 120 (or less) lol. Hopefully I get some declines! That's really exciting that everyone is making the effort to make it to yours though

Oh NO! I am afraid of this. I'm glad you have space available, sucks budget wise though.

Well, you have room for them all. so that's good. be happy people care enough to come. we need new friends, apparently.

Wow!! I'm shocked! If this happened to us we'd be over our maximum capacity, however there are certain people I already know aren't coming. And just this week I found out about 6 more that I thought for sure would be there and they can't make it. And my invites haven't even gone out! It's going to be awesome though to be surrounded by all those you love!

Good on you for not inviting more people than your venue can accommodate. This is why I would NEVER invite more people than the venu can accommodate. We invited 170 and are hoping to have fewer than 160, but our venue and budget can all accommodate 200.

I had this conversation with someone yesterday; their venue can do 120, I've been there (as a caterer) and 100 is infinitely better, and they have invited 150. Lots of out of towers, but those OOT have friends and family still in this area, and it's in the summer near the Jersey shore and NYC. AND it's in a wildly interesting venue (yes, that does factor into the acceptance factor too).

I'm glad this worked out for you, but no one should invite more than they can handle. I'm not a major fan of B lists either, for a couple of reasons....

From my wedding, I remember how freaked out I was about that guest list. We wanted no more than 100 and sent out probably about 180 invites. The politics happened and more and more "had" to be invited and it was stressing me out!

Our result was, even after a high yes RSVP count, we didn't have more than 110 show up which was perfect for me!

The lesson: Just because they RSVP yes doesn't mean they actually show up. And even if they do, at least your list seems to be all people that you love and would want to be a part of your most important day anyways so yay for all the love!!

Even though it kind of sucks budget wise/flooring plan, it'll be awesome on your wedding day to see that everyone that you cared about was able to come We invited 138 people and only about 92 came (including about 5 last minute RSVP's that were past our catering deadline that we still had to pay for). It was an over 30% decline rate. Almost everyone was from out of town, though.

We were in the same predicament. I did have an overflow table for just in case and it was full lol!

OMG this is my fear! FH's mom invited a lot of family guests promising us they wouldn't come. Now she's saying people are a lot more excited and interested than she expected them to be. Like you, they'd all fit but still...

Glad your venue can accommodate the higher number! I was afraid of this too but the declines are slowly coming in. We still have quite a few people who haven't RSVPd yet but we have a good idea of who's coming and who's not. Looks like we'll be very close to our desired number of guests. End the end, things always workout they way they're supposed to.

Our venue's manager said that up to 150 was the perfect size, that even though they could technically seat up to 200 it was on the tight side. So we definitely have room, plus I adjusted the floor plan to include an overflow table (I was going to have at least one extra table anyway because I'm not doing a seating chart). Between the extra rentals and food, it's definitely going to be another $500, but it is what it is. I'm trying not to stress about it, but I have to say that I am SO GLAD I broke down last week and hired a last minute DOC...and that my wedding isn't in high-season here so she was available.

OMG! I feel for you. With every single Accepts with pleasure that I get back! Our guest list is 90% OOT, but also 85% family, so our decline rate probably wont match the usual formula. Unfortunately I figure our declines will mostly be from my family, as a good bit of them are out of state, and probably won't travel. So Our numbers will be probably be right, but mostly his side

Omg I'm scared of this happening as well. Our target number is less than 125 people, but we're inviting more like 150. We're assuming a we'll have a decent decline rate since it's 90% OOT guests, especially on FH's side since they'll travel internatioanally. But even just having sent our save the dates I've gotten confirmation from some family members that I thought would NEVER come that they'll be making the trip. So I'm nervous :-/ ETA: Our venue can hold max 150 so the nervousness is more for the budget than going over capacity, lol.

This is what i'm fearing- about 75% of our guest are coming from 1.5 hrs+ away. my FH invited a lot of people hes says "defiantly wont come" i didn't not want to bank on this but i'm really hoping hes right. i'm hoping to get at least 20 no's

This was my worst fear. Didnt happen to us though, thank goodness.

I'm not sure who is telling people that an average decline rate is 20%. You can't bank on that. Ever. We tend to see changes from expected to final # closer to 10%. As Celia said, things are variable. If it's summer near a great vacation spot, chances are they will come. If it's 4 hours away on Christmas Eve, well, that's a whole other story.