Only one. Single. Decline. RSVP freak out.

I'm glad this isn't a venue issue for you. I hope that the fact that you will have everyone you really wanted there will make up for the extra expense. I'm in a similar number situation but our invitations haven't gone out yet so I'm still trying to guess.

At least you didn't do what my FBIL is doing. They have a venue that maxs out around 350 and are inviting almost 500. If they don't get "NOs" they will be in big trouble.

We are trying to get our list down to 140 people and hoping for about 115. A budget thing, not a venue capacity thing. Our current list (161) has at least 48 out of state guests.

You are living my nightmare, LOL! It's sweet to have so many making the time to celebrate you two, but yeah the budget aspect makes want to scream! My situation is like Chloe's w/my family being from about 2 hrs away and us having a Friday wedding, I feel ok to invite more than our ideal number of guests. But I'll keep you in mind and still be a lil' conservative.

I am nervous about the guest response on both ends. Right now we have 120 on the list but that includes like 20 or so kids that I think maybe only 10 kids would actually come. For me the preferred #, budget wise would be about 90. But I already know of about 5 people who are likely out and I'm worried about it being closer to like 75 that actually show. So then I started considering opening up invites to people who I was on the fence about, but I don't want more than about 105 to actually come. So I'm not sure what to do.

It's awesome so many people want to come celebrate with you! How exciting!!

Celia is right about the venue. When my cousin got married in Charleston I was like, oh we are going! It was in a city I wanted to visit, she was marrying into major money and is quite the fashonista/chic woman and the rehearsal dinner was at the local aquarium. I was willing to make bigger sacrifices to go and all of those factors were part of that decision for me.

You're so popular! Glad everything will work out though. This is the exact reason why I "no-ed" all the extra people our parents wanted to add!

I HOPE all my guests RSVP yes!!

Fingers crossed I don't have to face this same nightmare... which really isn't a nightmare because we love our guest. It's just that more guest means more work... and more money

Lol - at least you know lots of people are interested in your wedding!

I would love it if all my guests could come! We'd have to get more tables for our venue though. We are guessing that we will have about 120 guests and we are inviting 150. The only reason I'm okay with FMIL over-inviting is because most of the extra people are out of the country and we're 95% sure they won't be able to come. It would be so cool if they could (FH's family I've never met), but it's not really likely.

I had this conversation with someone the other day. The venue holds 80 - 100, they invited 150 because they were told to expect so many to decline and not show up. I always say don't invite more than the venue can hold and/or you can afford.

I am glad it worked out for you.

Wow! Our invite list was also 145 and we had exactly 100 show up.

We are inviting 185, and I'd love it if everyone could make it, but our wallets are hoping only 140-150 show. There's a good 20 people on our list who I'm pretty sure won't make the trip for various reasons.

This is what I am freaking out about. My fiance and I both have fairly large families and from the get go we decided not to invite any second family and then my mom's uncle died and she spilled the beans to all of them so that was additional 20 invites and we are 40 people over the max for our venue...I have had nightmares already and I just send out our save the dates yesterday. I don't know what we are going to do. We seriously need 40 no's.

This is my nightmare!! I think the odds are in my favor though... we invited 153 (including immediate family and bridal party) and are hoping for 120 or less (less would be better!). I just went through and counted and 93 of the guests are out of state... so hopefully it will work out! I think I'll be more excited to get "no" RSVPs, lol. That said, since you can accommodate everybody, I'd focus on being happy that so many people want to share in your love!!

On the bright side it's amazing everyone wants to and can celebrate this wonderful point in your life!

I am worried about this happening to us. FH insists a big part of his list won't come. Our venue holds over 150, our final guest count was 90 and we guaranteed and really only wanted 65 lol.

I would never have invited more than the capacity of the venue...yikes! I went to a wedding a couple of years ago that was over capacity and it was awful. We were squished in like sardines. There weren't enough seats for at least ten people and guests were walking around with plates of food, waiting for someone else to finish so they could sit down. The dance floor was hilarious, we were all elbow to elbow. It was at a beautiful golf course but all I remember was how ridiculously packed it was.