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Online rsvp reminders

Emily, on July 26, 2019 at 3:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 4

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Our RSVPs are entirely online. The RSVP deadline has just passed, and we're at about a 40% response rate. That said, some family members that haven't RSVP'd online have indirectly told me they're coming by asking for tips on where to stay in the city. My issues are #1, I don't know if everyone in their party will be coming (for example, are both aunt and uncle coming?), #2, I didn't keep track of everyone's text or comment, so don't have 100% certainty on my recollection of who has talked about it with me, #3, we're having a picnic the day before which I'm assuming not everyone who is attending the wedding will go to but I'd know if they RSVP online, and #4, the online RSVP has a question about special dietary needs that I'd like answered (although, I guess that's kinda on them if they don't RSVP).

Phew. With all that said, is it rude to send out a reminder email, even to those who I know are coming but didn't formally RSVP? Here's the text I'm thinking:

Hello family and friends!

[Fiance] and I are trying to firm up our head count for the wedding and pre-wedding picnic and check on whether anyone has special dietary needs. If you have a moment, could you please formally RSVP online at: [url]?

If you have any questions/difficulties, please let me know!
Thanks,
[Our names]

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Latest activity by Elizabeth, on July 26, 2019 at 5:07 PM

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Caytlyn · on July 26, 2019 at 3:56 PM
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It's pretty typical to follow up with non-RSVPers. I personally would follow up individually instead of sending out a mass email. I would also say "Our final headcount is due on x-date. If we don't hear from you by y-date, we will assume that you're unable to attend." That way they know there won't be room for them if they don't take the time to RSVP.
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Andrea · on July 26, 2019 at 4:00 PM
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Yes Caytlyn, I agree with your advice as well.
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Teresa · on July 26, 2019 at 4:50 PM
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Personally I'm going to call them incase they don't RSVP. That way it's more clear & personal. I know that sounds like a lot but I feel itd be best & more personal. Hope you get the responses u need whichever way you decide to do it
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