On a Tuesday...

The best talking point is that nobody wants to go to a Tuesday wedding.

It's silly to inconvenience your guests so much just because it's the day you met. Your wedding anniversary is so much more significant. It's like celebrating the first date night, first kiss, proposal date... I don't know many married couples who still celebrate those things because the importance is eclipsed by your wedding anniversary and all the other life milestones that come after. If anything, you'd have two anniversaries to celebrate if your FH wants to remember when you met.

Have you talked to all your VIP guests? What's more important: having all your closest people there (happy, and not angry after sitting in two hours of traffic) or just a date?

I would come if you were a really close friend or close relative but otherwise I would pass. Besides working all day and dealing with traffic, we both are up at 5:30am so we would be out of there as soon as dinner was done.

We got engaged 2/13 and planned our wedding for the 13th of any month to kinda stick with a sentimental date. We both agreed we didn't want a February wedding. We then looked at when the 13th fell on a Saturday and lucked out with May. If you push your wedding to April you could have a Friday wedding.

I would come at 7, but leave at 9:30 the latest. I don't know whose gonna be "getting frisky" on the dance floor at midnight on a Tuesday, unless they took a vacation day for Wednesday.

If you're honestly looking for reasons to change the date then I'd say it just seems kind of rude to your guests. Even those who are closest to you are being inconvenienced to attend the wedding. I understand limiting guests but I want everyone to enjoy themselves, especially when I'm spending all this money!

7 is good since most of rush hour will be over, then again with 495 and 66 you never really know how traffic will be, but since you're February also consider snow (not the case AT ALL this year) but the entire city basically shuts down even if there is a dusting. Just keep that in mind.

My sister got married on a Tuesday in Key West. She had more guests than she expected (somewhere around 40). So there is still an off chance you'll have a decent turnout. She had a brunch time wedding but I think 7 is an appropriate time.

Unless it was family or a close close friend, i would not be able to take pto and I would have to leave no later than 9 to ensure I was ready for work. In sure a lot of ppl are in the same boat. I would factor that in to your start time. It's easier for me to get off s little early on Tuesday and be there earlier (like 6 or 6:30) and be there longer than to stay late and go in late to work the next morning

Second Mrs. C. It sounds like op is willing to change the date. Ladies, lets bump this with talking points as she said so she can convince FH to change!

Thanks ladies. I'm still working on it. In a way, it works because out guest list is super small and we hang out during the week at least once a week with out circle, but at the same time the "traditionalist" in me wants to change it.

HOWEVER, we went by to see the venue again yesterday (on a whim) and since we chose a Tuesday we ended up getting an ENTIRE floor as opposed to the one room we'd booked ($7500) savings, For the location and the HUGE "gift" we got from out veune I think we'll leave it there, offer transportation for those who really want to be there and have the best time of our lives even it's just 10 people there.

Thank you ladies for ALL of your feedback! I appreciate you!

I wouldn't go to a Tuesday wedding unless I was very very close with the couple, and it sounds like you want a 4-5 hour party, but I really doubt that'll work out.

If your FH is absolutely set on that date, how do feel about having just immediate family or eloping during the day on the Tuesday and have the big party on Friday or Saturday? ETA: just saw your last comment. If that works for you and your crowd then go for it!

7 is a good time

I think 7 sounds good, and I would go to a Tuesday wedding if you were important to me. I do shit all the time during the week for people I love that's pretty inconvenient at least a wedding is fun

I've gone to happy hours that start at 5pm and end after 9pm, when reverse happy hour starts. Would I get crunk? Probably not, but that wouldn't stop me from going to a wedding on a Tuesday. 7pm is a good time and yay for the additional savings you're getting!

7 is good. 8 too.

'The best talking point is that nobody wants to go to a Tuesday wedding.'

Oh stop speaking on behalf of everyone. You wouldn't want to go to a Tuesday wedding, fine. Not everyone feels the same way.

If I were local I'd most definitely go to a Tuesday wedding and if I were close to the couple but oot I would still most definitely still go.

Omg you guys! She didn't ask your opinion on having it on Tuesday, she wants advice on timing. Geez!! You all always tell people to look at weekday weddings for various reasons. Someone is doing so and you bombarde the poor girl with all of the reasons not to.

I think 7 is perfect and I would totally go to a Tuesday night wedding and enjoy the shit out of it.

I don't see how a Tuesday wedding is any different from a Thursday wedding. There have been regulars on this board who've had very successful Thursday evening weddings with excellent guest turn-outs and advocate that day because of the savings it provides. How is this different? Does no one go out to dinner during the week? You can obviously leave early if you want. No one has to stay for dancing.

OP, I think a 7pm start is a good time.

At the end of the day, if I was going to attend the wedding, the day doesn't really matter so long as I have time to make it so 7pm works perfectly.

If I didn't want go, I don't care if it's on a Sat or not.

Yep bottom line is if you want to go, you will make the arrangements and bear the inconveniences, whether that is weekday wedding, destination wedding or even a run of the mill Saturday wedding (which can still be inconvenient to a lot of people who work during weekends.)