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SassysoClassy
Savvy February 2018

On a Tuesday...

SassysoClassy, on July 3, 2017 at 11:18 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 49

So our wedding is on a Tuesday. We understand that everyone wont be taking off for our wedding (and honestly that was kinda the point, lol). My question is, what is a respectable time for the ceremony? I was thinking 7 considering our venue is literally DOWNTOWN DC. and we dance until 11 (or midnight if people are feeling frisky).

Thoughts ladies? If you were invited to a Tuesday evening event with a 9-5 what time would be comfortable for you?

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Latest activity by SassysoClassy, on July 13, 2017 at 3:11 PM
  • Allie
    Dedicated May 2018
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    I believe 7 would be good . It gives people time to get home and freshen up a bit ( also traffic might die down a bit too, DC traffic sucks !)

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  • Colleen
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    7:00 is probably a good time. Although, honestly, I'd probably come for the ceremony and dinner and then leave soon after.

    I had a Friday wedding with ceremony at 6:00 pm. Dinner was served around 7:20 and many family and older guests left around 9:00.

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  • Meaghan
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    I like the sounds of 7, if I worked until 5 and lived local that gives me time to go home and change and then come back for the wedding. If I was not able to take off the Wednesday following your wedding I likely would only stay until about 9 or 10 though, but that will vary on the crowd you end up getting, and many people may take off Wednesday anyway.

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  • Mrs. C
    Expert March 2017
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    Can I ask why you chose a Tuesday for your wedding? Attendance will likely be low, and people won't stay for very long if they have work the next day. If I were to attend a Tuesday wedding, a 7 PM start time would work, but I'd probably leave after dinner. I'm not so sure how realistic a party-all-night wedding on a Tuesday is.

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  • QueSeraSera
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    If I was invited to a weekday wedding, I'd just leave work a little early that day to accommodate the wedding start time, but that's just me Smiley smile I'm a teacher so my kids are gone by 3pm anyway, and I don't really start planning lessons for the next week until Wednesday so..

    PS: I obviously would not stay until midnight though! I'd probably leave around 9pm, maybe 10:00 at the latest and just plan on an easy day with coffee for the next day. I would not drink at all though.

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  • BookcaseHat
    Master July 2017
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    I wouldn't start any earlier than 7, but I think 7 would be fine.

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  • A. L.
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    I would hard pass a Tuesday wedding, but with Beltway traffic, I don't think there is a good time.

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  • TreeShade
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    I think 7 is fine. With advanced notice I could always schedule off the day or work half a day depending.

    However, I don't know about dancing until 11 or even midnight. Especially with work being on a Wednesday.

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  • FutureMrsN
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    I think 7 would be fine. I also work in Downtown DC and I think most people could realistically get there in time. That way you also can have people head out early if they need to, without missing a ton of the festivities.

    ETA - Out of curiosity, what venue are you going with?

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  • Eviee
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    I think 7 is a good time for us 9-5 folks!

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  • BlueHenBride
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    7 sounds like a good start time that would give guests plenty of time to get changed and get to the venue, but I agree that it's unlikely guests are going to stay as late as 11pm or midnight on a weeknight. My cousin had a Thursday wedding and guests that were remotely local didn't take off from work the next day. They left well before 10pm. Even the bride's brother, who was in the WP, left early (around 9) so he and his wife could get home and go to work the next day.

    In all honesty as a guest, I'd rather have to go into work a little early the day of a wedding so I could leave an hour early to make it on time than have to take a vacation day the next day in order to stay for most of the event.

    I guess the big question you and FH need to ask yourselves when it comes to your timeline is when will dinner fall if your wedding starts at 7pm? What happens if your guests who aren't able to take off work the next day decide they can come for a couple of hours and decide to start leaving between 9-10pm? Will things be timed that dinner will be completed by then? There's going to be drawbacks to consider for both an earlier or later start time for a weekday wedding. I encourage you to think through some of those questions when choosing your start time.

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  • MrsSki
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    Agree that 7 is the best option, but still not a great one. Traffic is miserable and as a guest, there's no guessing how long it'll actually take you to get there.

    Honestly, why not have it earlier, around 3:30? Your guests are already going to have to take time off in order to get ready and fight traffic. Having it earlier means they'll be able to miss the worst 4-6pm drive time. You'll also probably end when most guests would be looking to leave anyway. I can't see many people sticking around until 11 or midnight with driving home and going to work the next day

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  • SassysoClassy
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    We choose Tuesday (not be cause of the DAY but it's the date we met). I was honestly thinking about providing RSVP'd guests with a Metro card with enough fare to get to and from the venue.

    He's not adamant about much, but the date he is. Ugh.

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  • SassysoClassy
    Savvy February 2018
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    How about you all give me talking points to make him change the date? LAWD!!

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  • Chivy
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    I go out during the week all the time. 7-11 is no problem. It may be one of those know your crowd things tho

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  • Mrs. C
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    Have you already booked your venue with the Tuesday date? That's sweet that it's the day you two met, but your wedding date will be significant on its own; it doesn't have to fall on a milestone date in your relationship. Your wedding day can have its own memorable date.

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  • Anne
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    The wedding date should not be picked for a sentimental reason IMO if it makes the wedding itself more inconvenient for all of your guests. If you and your FH wants to have a party atmosphere, then the wedding should probably be a Friday or Saturday. If you are both ok with it being more laid back, and having most guests leave by 10 pm then stick with Tuesday.

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  • ZimWifey
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    As someone who is constantly deliberating my guestlist, I definitely see why you'd choose Tuesday to crowd control lol. I think 7 is a good time, just make sure you account for rush hr traffic as you and vendors get to the venue

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  • Sarah
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    7pm is a good start time, but honestly I wouldn't go to downtown DC on Tuesday evening in February unless you were my bff or I already worked downtown. and I wouldn't stay late either.

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  • VC
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    I think 7 would be perfect. I actually have classes that start at 7 now, after getting out of work at 5pm and it's just enough time to get home, change my outfit, freshen up, and grab my school bag. It would be the same for a wedding, just dressing up instead of dressing down! Tuesday sounds fun to me!

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