OMG! We OVER invited!!

Ooops! What if 40 don't decline? Will you be over capacity?

Time to come up with a plan B.

Did you already send the invites?

Do you have a contingency plan if they all come? will your venue fit them? my guest list was at least 50% out of state and I had like 35% of my invite list decline. no one told me to expect a 50% show rate for out of towners vs a 75% show rate for locals. would have saved me some disappointment.

No, no, no. We're not over capacity. We just invited more people than we wanted to. There's plenty of room at the venue to accommodate them. We'll be out of more money that we really didn't want to spend; and we really only wanted 60 people at our wedding (small and intimate) NOT 98!

Invites go out next week. We sent STDs and have invited people word of mouth.

Mrs. Temme, thank you for the show rate estimates. I'll apply that and see if it makes me feel better.

As long as you're not over the venue's capacity, you should be fine! It may be a little more money than you had planned but at least everyone can physically fit in the building! You can't count on declines based on the average decline rate, but it's pretty rare to get 100% acceptance. So you may have a few more people than you want but it's not that big of a deal.

Wow thats almost double your list.

90% of my guests were from out of town; our total decline rate was less than 20%

You'll probably be close, but you'll probably still be over.

Repeat after me, newly engaged people; "don't send STD's dont' send STD's"

I know this feeling!

Knowing that all of my side of the guest list will have to travel from the UK and therefore probably more than 50% won't make it (at the moment I'm only really sure my mum will be there) we figured we could get away with going over our guest list. We're now over by about 35. And I had a panicked moment the other day when I said to FH 'what if everyone comes?'.

Can't offer any advice, but just to say I feel you!

I read something that said approx. 65% of out of town guest and 90% of in town guest show up. We are over too so I am hoping there's some truth to it.

FMD: Totally in a similar situation. When we started planning we were sitting at about 45 people coming. Nice small and intimate wedding. I was going over my guest list on the weekend we are up at 80 now, and I am pretty damn sure we are only going to get one rsvp no. Lol how it happened idk.... but it did. Lol.

Unfortunately I have no good advice as I am in the same boat! We had several family members and friends (most from OOT) say they would be unable to attend for various reasons and are now able to come ... while I'm excited they are able to make it, we extended invites elsewhere with their decline. I've joined the Oh well, it'll all work out club!

I really don't understand how such a thing happens. We wanted 50 people max. We are inviting 50 people and that includes spouse and plus ones.

Monica, you're a very smart lady! I'm screwed! But the guest list is closed, closed, closed!

I don't really have a set max or anything, but I think we have invited about 100 people. Since it is a destination wedding, I would be happy if 60 people showed up. Our list has grown steadily as well. Just a few people here and a few people there, but it definitely adds up.

Whoa! Glad to hear your won't have a capacity problem! FH talked to his mom and she told him who wouldn't be attending (I'm not counting them out until I get the RSVP card back), but FH has decided to fill those declines. I told him, "hey, we can save money and not extend anymore invitations, or we can pay more to have your coworkers there..."

Oops. Look on the bright side- more gifts

Too late to take back the word of mouth. I would start making calls and force people to commit or decline. This will hopefully cut down on last minute shows at your wedding and/or cancellations. I let it be known in a polite manner that if you rsvp and don't show up I am sending you a bill. lol.