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GoodMOB
April 2018

Ok, what's a mob to do about a bouquet toss?

GoodMOB, on March 17, 2018 at 8:36 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 44
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I didn't think daughter was having a bouquet toss, but now she is, she says. I've read a lot of negative opinions on her about bouquet tossing, and I agree that it's kind of rude to the single female guests. Nothing like pointing out how they are unattached. Esp. thinking of one niece of mine, and I think this custom is just Yuck.

So, lots of you on here don't like the toss, but you also don't like MOBs who try to take over their daughters' weddings. So, what's the advice here?

My guess is I have to keep my mouth shut and let this happen, even though I don't think it's very nice for some guests.

What say all of you?

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Latest activity by rica, on March 18, 2018 at 3:32 PM
  • FME
    Master March 2018
    FME ·
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    I mean, I know you are super concerned and super involved but this isn't up to you. Remember, as caring as you are, it's not your wedding. This is the type of thing that's up to her (and him) to decide.


    I don't like them, so I didn't have a toss. I've been to weddings that have them, and that's cool too.

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  • Teresa
    Super September 2018
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    Do you know if there are a lot of single younger women? I think what makes the toss uncomfortable is when there are not a lot of participants. I have been to many of weddings which still did it and the younger generation (and the older teenagers) were happy to do it.

    Personally we will not be doing it because we are older and do not have many single friends.
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  • lindseybee89
    Expert June 2018
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    I have a lot of guests that have already commented about catching my bouquets. No one forces anyone to stand up there so it’s not a negative thing or “singling the singles out” since anyone unmarried can stand up there even if they are in a relationship. It’s a quick thing and something people do like. I don’t see any harm in it. If there are not a lot of unmarried guests the toss could look a little bare

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  • Anna
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    Anna ·
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    I think it's perfectly within your rights to mention that it might make cousin feel bad, and that more and more people are opting out of this practice. After that you can back off and let her decide. I don't think that is overstepping and if my mom were up on trends enough to be helpful like that, I'd appreciate it.
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  • EngineerInLove
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    If there aren't a lot of single female guests then it can we weird and uncomfortable, but your daughter knows her guests best. Let her do what she wants. You can point out to her only once what you think about it, but after that you need to let it go.
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  • E
    Devoted October 2018
    Emily ·
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    After looking at my first list, I may have about two or three "single ladies" and that is IF these families go to my wedding and bring their daughters. So, I am opting for a "couple's dance" instead. My DJ will have all the couples get on the dance floor and we will all dance. He will ask all of us who have been married for under 5 years to sit down. And then 10 years and so on until there is one remaining couple left on the dance floor. They will get my "throw bouquet". And done!
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  • Gwyn
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    Definitely let her decide. You don’t want to be “that mom” she gets on her and complains about. I would just tell her your suggestion and explain why, but then let her decide. Smiley smile
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  • Mrsbdg
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    I didn't do a bouquet toss per se but did a ring pull. I didn't realize until I was actually rounding up my single friends how weird it was. They were all good and excited about it but I know I would have dug in harder about it if my mom had pushed against it. I would just let her be.

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  • Heather
    Expert September 2018
    Heather ·
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    I never thought of this
    I was looking forward to tossing my bouquet
    When I was a kid and my sister married I tried to catch hers cause I wanted it to remember her by
    I was like in 3rd grade maybe
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  • Allison
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    We're doing this as part of our first dance!
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  • lindseybee89
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    I would do it then. It’s not offensive, it can just can be hard if most guest are married because there’s not a population of girls.
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  • lindseybee89
    Expert June 2018
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    Won’t that be awkward for the few people left at the tables that are not married ?
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    Devoted October 2018
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    Not as awkward as being one single grown woman catching a bouquet....
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  • Heather
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    I'm thinking of my guest list
    There are some girls who are in relationships but not married
    About 6 to 8
    One is engaged being married the month after us
    So we will have a group
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    Baylee ·
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    It's a fun game. Try not to take it so seriously. It's not like people pull you out on the dance floor to participate if you're single so if they're out there they want to do it.
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  • lindseybee89
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    You can be in a relationship and catch The bouquet, just not married ... but you can’t dance with a date if you don’t have one.
    Infele liek a couples dance is way more offensive. I would be so upset if they made me watch and I was single. I always liked the bouquet toss
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    Savvy October 2018
    Brianna ·
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    I don’t think people are gonna take it all too seriously. It’s just a fun thing to do. If anyone is gonna be upset by it they don’t have to participate
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    I think it depends more on how many single guests there are and hiw old they are. As someone said, the younger crowd are more into it, but if they are older then they may feelvuncomfortabke being singled out. I dont havr many single adults or teens at my wedding but there are plenty of kids, so I'm going to toss bride and groom teddy bears for the kids instead. Mostly this was because my flowers are going to be glass beaded flowers, so I can't throw this without it breaking or causing injury.
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    I agree with everything she has to say here...
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  • Michelle
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    I’m doing a bouquet toss but it’s all for fun. It’s not going to be like a serious thing for me.
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