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Officially cancelled our reception. Super bummed

Future Mrs. T, on December 14, 2020 at 10:30 PM Posted in New York Planning 0 5
Hi all. Hubby and I got married on our OG date of 10.10.20 in a courthouse ceremony but postponed our reception to 2/13/21. Just sent out all the emails (except for one) to cancel it. Dancing wouldn’t be allowed nor congregating on the dance floor so we don’t want to pay $3k for a dinner!

I’m just super bummed because this was obvs not what I was envisioning when wedding planning this past January! Hubby doesn’t always understand either. He says but at least we’re married. You got to wear your dress, we took our photos and we spent it with our closest family. Of course I’m so excited to be married and say I finally have a husband but i feel like its different for women. We dream about this day for years and for it to be switched around in a matter of months is something difficult for me to cope with. We didn’t do a first dance, i didnt dance with my father and we didn’t cut our cake.
Anyways I felt like i could vent here with other women who understand what i’m going through. I don’t want to cancel our wedding cake though lol. I was so excited for how its going to look. I kind of just want it shipped to our house and we’ll send it out to people nearby. Lolol trying to make the best of it i guess.


Latest activity by Lgdp, on April 25, 2021 at 8:04 PM
  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I'm so sorry. It's super rough right now.

    Order your cake, have some, freeze the rest, eat it on your anniversary!

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I'm so sorry, that's such a tough decision to make. ❤️

    You should definitely still order and enjoy your wedding cake!! If any of your guests live nearby you could have them join you for a slice, or make a date night out of it! 🍰


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  • Lauren
    Expert July 2021
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    What about having some family and friends over for the cake and some food? Then you can maybe do a first dance then and dance with your dad? Small, intimate, get a dress off lulus and take some photos and have a great time.
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  • Elizabeth
    Just Said Yes June 2021
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    Hi Mrs. T - - I feel exactly how you're feeling! We did something similar, got married on the OG date and rescheduled the big reception. And when there didn't seem to be any end in sight to Covid and ended up canceling our big reception. Its a roller-coaster of feelings that's for sure, most days I know we made the right choice for us and I am happy with it ..... but then there are some days (like today) when I'm sad about everything we're missing out on. I know a belated reception celebrating our 2nd or 3rd anniversary could be an option, but it doesn't have the same feeling. Sending hugs, at the very least we'll have a unique wedding story and there will be a group of us who forever will be "Brides during Covid" Smiley heart

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  • L
    Beginner November 2020
    Lgdp ·
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    Feeling this for sure! We had a small wedding with immediate family in November 2020 after postponing from May 2020, and we originally planned to do a big reception still in October of 2021, but ultimately decided to cancel it to save money and not have to go through the planning. At the time we canceled I was eager to do so because we had just come off of our wedding weekend that was so intimate and special, but now I constantly go in waves of no regret, then regret of not having the “once in a lifetime” celebration with all of our friends and family. It truly is an emotional rollercoaster! We had an amazing micro wedding and I feel guilty even thinking this way, but it’s hard to get over not having some really close friends and family celebrate our marriage with us.
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