NWR Mom calls 5 times a day

Shame on you. Those of us that have lost our moms would give anything for a phone call.

Be grateful she is excited about your wedding!

^^^ Well, yes and no... 5 times a day is a bit obsessive. If my mom, dad, FH, sister or friend did that to me, I'd just have a calm talk with them saying we will discuss everything in the evening in one call.

If she's persistent, tell her you got in trouble by your boss and unless she plans on paying your salary, you won't be answering her calls unless it's a true emergency.

Just ask her to stop calling so much...

I would gently tell her that you're busy & will get back to her as soon as you can after the first call. Be blunt, but polite :]

She knew we where at the fair. I had a "We are going to the fair and will be busy talk with her" and she still called three times in that time frame. Like once a day fine whatever but calling me and then calling me 2 hrs later to say the same thing is pissing me off.

It anyone called me 5 times per day i would go nuts.

i think you just need to tell her it's too much!

I try to be like Dude Im busy but she keeps calling. Its making me crazy. I feel bad but ignore her calls sometimes.

Anyone calling you 5 times a day would be annoying.

Wow, my mom won't call me unless someone is dead or dying! I would be straight to the point with her that it is too much!

This is my FMIL. She is .... involved. It comes from a good place in her heart adn I try to give her the benefit of the doubt. But it's a lot.

Turn off your phone maybe if she doesn't want to listen when you talk. Maybe then she'll get it.

I'd go nuts if anyone called me 5 times in one day all the time.

Ashley, speaking as a bride who has lost her Mother...shame on you for playing that card, that is lower than low in my opinion. Your mother's death is not something you use to guilt trip others.

Now on to Emmy Nae, have you tried telling her that it is driving you crazy? Maybe if you explain that the constant calls are causing you stress and anxiety it might get her to back off. Telling her you are busy is only going to make her try and call more in order to catch you at a good time. Or maybe if she is close enough you could suggest a weekly dinner so you can speak face to face instead?

My mother used to be like this when I was in college. I had to sit her down for a serious talk. I think she forgets I am not attached to my phone 24/7. We set aside times I would call her and I always followed through.

My phone now is so advanced I can have certain people's calls sent straight to voicemail, maybe you can look into that if the talk doesn't work

I agree with the others. Tell her that will you're happy she's involved, 5 calls a day is too much.

She calls you to repeat the same thing, five times a day? I'm being completely serious: is there a possibility that she's forgetting about her previous repetitive calls ? That could be indicative of a more serious problem than simple inconvenience. If not, just let it go to voice mail and call her back at the end of the day.

And, Ashley...I'm sorry about your mom. In fact, I sympathize with any bride who's without her mother during this milestone event.

Hahaha Carrie really?? I should look into that for FI's phone

Flowers- I was thinking that too, maybe which is scary. I just cant take it when I am trying to do everything for the wedding, clean the apartment ect. Its making me a crazy woman!

Does your mother live alone, or is there someone you can bounce this behavior off of to see if she's forgetting things in other areas of her life? It's something you really need to rule out. Good luck to you.

While I can see both sides of this situation, in the end I would never want to look back and regret not picking up the phone to speak to my mother. Like those who posted before me, I'm sure others who no longer have their mothers here with them would give anything to speak to them once again. On the other hand, maybe you could simply ask her to tone down the calling as it is putting a stress factor on you and the FH's shoulders.

Flowers- Im going to ask my dad if he sees that or notices it. She called my brother 5 times a day when he moved away too. Like yes Im not living with you but I have a life too and I am BUSY untill 10/19. I am running around like crazy