NWR: but did you have to compromise with animals?

Do not assume that he will get used to and grow to like a pet. He could be one of those psychopaths who just hates animals altogether, and then you'll end up in a worse position. The shelter where I volunteer gets so many surrenders where the woman says "my husband won't let me keep him," or even situations where a spouse brings in the animal and tells his partner it ran away or something.

Keeping a dog outside is so cruel. I hope you can talk to him and compromise by allowing the dog in the house but off the furniture and not in the bedrooms...

Since FH and I live together for 3 years I had 2 dogs when he came along and we recently got another a few months back he loves dogs and the only stipulation is they can't come in the bed anymore (sad face) I love to cuddle them and show them unconditional love they deserve it so I think there needs to be some compromising here a dog should t be left outside especially if temps drop it gets cold out there

In some states that's considered animal cruelty. Here I'm glad to report that we can't have dogs tethered outside under a certain temperature for over 10/15 minutes at a time in the winter. The one thing we've compromised on is the number of pets we have at a time. We have 1 currently and have discussed the possibility of getting a second when the time is right. However there won't be more than 2 animals in the house at at time, not counting our daughter's fish. The one thing I would refuse to compromise on is the animal's quality of life.

OP: is your FH from another culture by chance? The concept of dogs being "dirty" and not welcome in the home while cats are fine smacks of the line of thinking in a country where I used to live. My ex-fiance's opinion on dogs were part and parcel of that culture, to the point where he'd not want to make contact with even small dogs like Shih Tzus. Here's an advice column on the subject: http://legacy.creators.com/health/dear-margo/my-neighbor-the-octopus.html

Anyone who didn't love animals would not be who I would marry.

My dog came with me, so if my dh would've had any issues with my dog we'd most likely not be together. She's just like another kid, so she lives in the house, is allowed on all furniture and sleeps on her own bed in our room. And in the mornings she sneaks up on the bed to get her snuggle time with me. Lol. So no, for me there's no compromise, I can't imagine my dog having to live outside.

I had 2 dogs and a cat. Hubs hadn't ever had animals. Sweet kitty had to stay at my parents bc hubs is allergic. But my boys have full reign of the house. They are springer spaniels & have always been inside. My fh has fallen head over heels in love with them so we don't have that issue. I am super anti getting a dog & it having to stay outside. I don't see the point in having a pet if you don't ever see it. Luckily, he's fallen in love with my babies so it was a non issue.

I hate having my dog inside because she sheds so much. But i let her inside because I want her to be happy and I love her! She knows when she comes inside to go lay on her bed...there's no running or jumping around, because that's only allowed outside! I also got a robot vacuum that sweeps all the dog hair every day! I make it work (with her being inside) because I love her, even if I don't love her shedding.

I honestly couldn't be with a guy that thought keeping a dog outside was ok. His dog needs to go to a proper HOME where she is loved. I feel that is fucked up and cruel. I am a dog and animal lover so that shit wouldn't fly past date #1 ! Sorry OP, I have no other advise than 'the way a person treats an animal is a big show of character '

My FH and I aren't animal people at all, neither of us ever had animals in the home growing up . An ex of mine was an animal guy and it was a huge reason we didn't work out lol. You might want to get on the same page about this . I would never ever allow an animal to be on my bed etc, but an animal lover would want their animals with them all the time . It's deff something you two need to discuss further .

I grew up with outside dogs only, and was pretty set that that was how it was supposed to be. Didn't want to get a dog until I had a big enough yard that it could play in. I mostly hated the idea of dog hair being everywhere, and worried about them chewing up my yarn (I crochet). About a year ago, we got a dog. Not just any dog, like, the best dog ever. He'd lived 3 years on my parents farm and to put it plainly, was not a good farm dog. He acclimated to indoor life rapidly. Since we have a small apartment, I said okay he can come in the bedroom, but he can't get on the bed. At one point, he was sick (we took him to his first vet appt and had to treat him for heartworms and Lyme disease) so I let him on the bed, but just at the foot of the bed. Not even a year later, and this little guy is my baby, he snuggles between us every night and takes up too much of the bed but I wouldn't change it. But, he's quiet. If he were a chewer in bed, or whined or anything, it wouldn't work.

Get a super good dog, let him inside in increments, let the apprehensive one take the lead. Don't get another cat, cats are awful

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Nope. I love my dogs way too much and would never be able to compromise on something like that. Curious as to why if hes not an animal person he even got a dog in the first place.

I have a cat and my FH has agreed to let me get another one when she passes, maybe a second one when we get a house. He also doesn't want the cat(s) in the bedroom. Which is a fair compromise to me.