Samantha
Savvy November 2020

November 2020 brides... what’s your plan with Covid on the rise?

Samantha, on July 1, 2020 at 3:55 AM

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Our wedding is set for November 14, 2020, and I wasn’t as worried as other brides because our date is set in the fall. As numbers are rising, I’m worried about all the plans we’ve made and where to go on a honeymoon? We still want to have a safe getaway... What are y’all doing for your weddings in...
Our wedding is set for November 14, 2020, and I wasn’t as worried as other brides because our date is set in the fall. As numbers are rising, I’m worried about all the plans we’ve made and where to go on a honeymoon? We still want to have a safe getaway...


What are y’all doing for your weddings in November ? Postponing ? Limiting guests ? Altering plans ?

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  • Danielle
    Expert November 2020
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    I am so glad you both agree and feel comfortable doing that and I love the idea of handing out masks and personalizing it. It is a blessing you have decided and not stressing as much about it and letting people make their own choice and taking precautions.

    I hope your day is smooth and fun for all of you.

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  • Danielle
    Expert November 2020
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    I am grateful to have other brides on here that know what we are all going through with this too. It helps to know we aren't alone with this.

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  • Christine
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    Seriously think I’d go nuts without the support. And honestly in such a crazy world it’s amazing to see the good people present. Hoping we can push on with our wedding ms Covid brides.
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  • Christine
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    Same here girl. There is so much uncertainty and it’s so tough.
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  • Christine
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    I’m in PA 11.20.20 I’m still uncertain myself.
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  • Danielle
    Expert November 2020
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    Completely agree! Hoping we can a well. Weddings are supposed to be happy joyous occasions and not stressful

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  • M
    Savvy November 2020
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    November 22nd in Maryland.

    As of right now, we are full steam ahead. In recent communication with our venue, they can accommodate 50% capacity right now. So that means 100 guests total. They've also waived all minimums and given us the option to postpone.

    We've discussed postponing but it just doesn't make sense to us since we have no idea what is going to happen next year. We could be in the same spot and we don't want to take the chance. My finance's family all has to travel to us, so we aren't sure how many people will actually show up. Even if it's only 20, we are still going to do it.

    What I really wish for is a crystal ball!!!

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  • Ciera
    Savvy November 2020
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    Hello, I have been going back and forth I’m just over it lol. We decided not to postpone since we do want to start a family soon, and some of our bridal party are in other weddings in May 2021 so it limits us on what day to choose, and if our vendors will have the days open. We narrowed to either just going forth with everything and whoever comes, can and if not do a live ceremony streaming OR do a planned elopement in Colorado. I really would love to elopement at this point but I would want my mom and brothers there and it’s up in the air with their jobs if they will be able to travel during the weekday VS having a wedding on the weekend in state. So I’m like stuck on my decision still, I do want to maybe send a personal email to my guest with a survey on seeing if they would say yes to attend, no or maybe to get a feel of how many people would actually come. I don’t want to spend thousand if on 5 ppl will show l🤷🏾‍♀️
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  • Stephanie
    Savvy September 2020
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    Hi Mindy!

    I'm glad to hear that your wedding date is still on schedule. We also live in Coastal VA and our date is Sept. 26, 2020. We've also decreased the guest count to about 60 people or so; it'll mostly be local friends and family, plus a handful of my close family from NJ (in a city where cases are minimal). I'm also glad that we changed our venue to a place that's large enough for people to feel comfortable spreading out v. being in a full/enclosed space.

    Best of luck, and congratulations, to you and your FH! Best wishes that things go smoothly for us VA brides!

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  • Mindy
    Super November 2020
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    Fingers crossed!
    I’m glad you were able to find a bigger space!
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  • Theadra
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    We've been legally married since 2018 so the wedding is a celebration for not only us but our friends and loves ones. We postponed from June 28th to Sept 6. Now we're really starting to think about postponing for a second time. We just want our guests safe and I don't want to have restrictions nor look back at everyone wearing masks and think COVID! But like some people said, I think it just depends on your location. For us many, if not all of our guests will be flying from all over the country.

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  • Samantha
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    Hi... we were supposed to be 11/7/20 and we are not moving forward with that date. Cases in NY and NJ have been going down but up everywhere else and we can't have 200 people regardless with singing, dancing, etc the way we planned, plus we have family members who are high-risk and people traveling from around the country. Things are not concrete yet but we're tentatively able to move it out to next November. Obviously it takes the wind and fun out of planning, but we wouldn't have been able to do fittings, tastings, bachelor/ette parties or a honeymoon the way we wanted, or have our guests and family feel safe. if you're spending money it should be worth it, and waiting one more year when we have forever together is worth it for one night of stress-free celebration (I know that other people have vastly different circumstances and reasons to want to have their weddings now, and don't judge at all for anyone wanting or needing to move forward. this is just our take on it for us and our family.)

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  • S
    Just Said Yes November 2020
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    Our wedding is still on for November 7th. We are getting married at my in-laws house, and limiting the guest list to 50 people. This is mainly family and a few friends.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes March 2021
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    My wedding is set for October 17, 2020 in Mississippi. Our guest list is over 150, and I have no idea what we are going to do. I am stressing out and my mother has been no help. She is not taking the Covid crisis seriously. She has paid for most of the wedding. I want to include her in the planning, but she acts like everything is going to be back to normal by October even though cases in our state keep rising. I don't know if we should go ahead and postpone or wait it out a little longer. This just really sucks. I graduated in May with my Master's degree, and my graduation was cancelled. Now my wedding might be affected as well. I know I am being selfish, but I can't help being upset about all this.

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  • Maureen
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    You are NOT being selfish! None of us are! We got this!

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  • Alisha
    Just Said Yes May 2021
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    Im a November 7th bride and my wedding planner told me to really think of what I need to do. I have a lot of family that are international and I don’t think that’s going to open up any time soon. As much as I don’t want to change my date, I want to have the wedding that I want and deserve. I feel so lost.
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  • Maureen
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    I went from 10-25 to 11-14-21. I’m so over the anxiety, and I got laid off yesterday from my job. I moved it out of stress relief.
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  • Jimelle
    Just Said Yes November 2021
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    My wedding date is on November 28, 2020. My fiance and I are keeping the date, unless told otherwise depending on our state regulations here in Hawaii. I went back and forth so many times about postponing, cancelling, or just cutting down our wedding size. Ultimately we decided to cut down our guest list as our Plan B if things don't improve. We went from 180 people to 100. However my day of coordinator suggested 80 to be safe because 100 includes vendors working the event as well. We're planning on sending out invitations to those 80 people first ASAP and then contacting them if they're coming or not and then slowly going down the list. It's not exactly how we planned it 5 months ago and I honestly felt so defeated as I put so much work into planning, as I'm sure most of you have. But ultimately, the day is about my S/O and I, and that's all that matters Smiley smile For all the COVID brides out there, keep pushing through, everything will work out as it should.

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  • Nicole
    Savvy November 2020
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    My wedding day is 11/6/20 in western NY! Right now, regulations say 50 people and NO dance floor but we are hoping things change! We are going ahead with planning just in case regulations do let up in the next few months.



    Plan B- We have no desire to postpone so if these restrictions are still in place (50 people, no dance floor), we decided to only hold the ceremony at the venue with our immediate family and closest friends (~20 people).
    Luckily, this venue is amazing! The cost includes food and drink, with a minimum being set based on number of people. They waived that completely and are basing deposit amounts on the 50 people. But ultimately, they arent holding us to any minimum amount and we would easily be able to change plans to be the small intimate wedding instead! I'm a little tempted to just do that now but FH wants to wait a little longer to decide.
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  • Alisha
    Just Said Yes May 2021
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    I’m so sorry! I officially am postponing my wedding from November 7th to May 22nd. I have so much family that are relieved with this decision. My FH and I may just do a court marriage this year and celebrate. We are doing a huge fusion wedding (Indian and American) so we want to be able to do it the right way with everyone that we want there. Majority of my family from out of the country wouldn’t be able to make it this November. With the cases rising so much right now it’s just scary. I feel so down about it. I’m not sure how long I’ll feel this way but in the end it’s best. AHHH!
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