Not sure if I should RSVP yes or no..

To be honest I would probably call up the friend and explain the situation. Say that you would love to attend but due to uncertain circumstances of your pregnancy you are not sure... See what she says. If she's anything like me she would probably be okay with putting you down as a yes and if anything changes oh well.. I would rather hope to have you there and pay for the meal just in case than to say oh well then don't come if theres a chance you won't make it because had a child.

Tiffany said it perfect.

First of all, thank you for actually having the thoughtfulness to RSVP! I would say yes, RSVP. It's best for them to plan for an additional person rather than be short. Congratulations on your pregnancy!

I have a similar situation with a guest who is due within 9 days of the wedding. I told her to RSVP yes as I absolutely want her to be there if she can, but if she can't then I totally understand given the circumstances!

She was going to be doing my hair and make-up as well and I did decide that was a bit too much of a risk and found someone else.

RSVP yes but either call or send a note to explain the situation. I think it would be better if they have you in the head count and you don't come rather than mark you down as a no then have to scramble to find you a seat. One of DH's friend's wife had to bail on us last minute because she got foot surgery and doc said she couldn't walk on it at all. NBD.

I would call and let them know what's up - more than likely, they'll insist you RSVP yes and understand if you can't come. I had a similar situation happen and I told them to RSVP yes anyways. I'd rather eat the cost then not let them in.

I would RSVP no. You may not feel up to attending a wedding. Take the stress off of yourself. Is this your first child? You may not want to attend and leave the baby. (Or then again you might). Personally I would say no.

Yup. Call and explain. On of my friends gave birth a month before my wedding. She RSVPd that she'd attend my wedding. Something went wrong with her C-Section and she was in the hospital up until a week before the wedding. Even though the final head count had been submitted and her spot had been paid for, I saw she was still not 100% yet, so I sent her a message that it I fully understand she cannot attend and all I want her to do is rest.

As long as you're honest, the bride will understand. If she doesn't, she's not a good person (or friend).

Even if you've had the baby, will you really want to leave a 2-week old? Is this your first? If so, it will likely come past your due date.

I'd probably just decline. As a recent bride, I'm sure you realize how annoying and inconvenient a "maybe" answer would be. . .

If I were your friend I would want you there and want you to RSVP yes. Obviously if you were in labor or just had a baby I would completely understand that you couldn't be there. I would only get annoyed if someone said yes and didn't show up or say anything about it. Just give her a heads up!

RSVP yes and call the bride and explain to her. If i received a call like that i would just mark you down as a "yes" so that there would be space accounted for you guys should you be able to attend.

My FSIL had something similar happen, her MOH was seriously pregnant at the time of her wedding, they almost had to push her up the aisle in a wheel chair. I believe she had the baby a week or two after the wedding.

Thank you ladies. My friend already knows my situation, but I will be calling her to see if she wants to put me down as a yes or a no. I obviously want to attend (my husband is singing a surprise song at the wedding) and this is a close friend of ours.

Maya and Barbara, yes, this is my first child and I have had several people ask me whether I will be comfortable leaving my child so soon after giving birth. I don't think it will be a big issue as both my mother and MIL live fairly close to me and the wedding venue. But then again it is my first child and I am not sure how I will feel when the time comes.

Shelley-- I didn't mean "comfortable"!! But will you have the *desire*?? I don't think we realize before we have babies how much we are going to love them, but let me tell you, the last few "new moms" I've met just did not want to be apart from their babies *at all*-- even for a 15 minute trip to the grocery store, they just missed them too much!

It is good they know your situation, Congratulations on the baby! Honestly though, I understand they are close friends and you want to be at their wedding but I would RSVP as a no, you are probably not going to feel up to it.. Our daughter is almost 20 months old and the first few weeks were exhausting! Actually, she didn't sleep through the night until 8 months old... lol. I was in labor a long time and pushed for just under 4 hours (she was in a weird position, I won't go into details) and then until you get on a schedule it takes a little bit of time.. Plus if you are late giving birth and it ends up being a few days before it may be a lot harder on you being sleep deprived. My daughter came 4 days late and both of my sisters' babies were over a week late! Are you planning to breastfeed?

Just call/message and explain your reasoning to wait and RSVP. I had a friend of ours who couldn't make it to the reception, but she came to the ceremony. I also had a couple who is out of state, and they weren't sure if the husband would be starting a new job that weekend or not, and we're waiting to see how that panned out. It was fine. I was glad to know that it was on their mind, and told them to just keep me posted.

Don't stress. Just give them a call.

P.S. You may not want to leave that baby so I'd see if it was possible to bring the baby along. I didn't read all of the comments, so I don't know if this has been addressed or not.

If I were a bride, I would appreciate a heads up and I would of course add you as a guest knowing you probably will not come. Who knows, the bride might be awesome and bring you your meal in a to-go bag if you have the baby/go into labor! I will eat wedding food over hospital food any day!

Barbara, that's kind of what I'm worried about because that's something that I'm uncertain about. I don't know if I'll want the baby stuck to my chest 24/7 or will want a break!

Natalie, yes I am planning on breastfeeding and using a pump.

Rusticbride, the invitation just says " Mr and Mrs. _______" and the RSVP card says "M____________" and I'm supposed to fill out the total number of guests attending. It does not say "and family" and I don't want to just assume they are having a kid free or kid friendly wedding. Either way, I don't know how I feel about taking a newborn baby to a wedding. I have no clue if this baby is going to be a whiny and cranky baby or a calm one and I'm not sure if I want to find out it's a super cranky one at a wedding. I feel like I would have a nervous breakdown if that happened.

You ladies are giving me a lot to think about! I'm even more confused!

You should call her. I'd want you to RSVP yes. And true, chances are good that you might not want to leave the baby but you just might want to go. I know plenty of women who would have been willing to go to a wedding a couple of weeks after giving birth.

And I have to disagree with Barbara on the being annoying thing. I'd rather have a good friend be a maybe then feel like she should just not come.

I wouldn't mention bringing the baby, as I'm sure she'll bring it up if she's ok with it. How far away is the wedding from your house?