Not Invited to Rehearsal Dinner

Rehearsal is normally for the ppl who are in the wedding such as bp, officiant, dj etc. I wouldn't have expected an invite.

I'm sorry she hurt your feelings. I'm sure it wasn't intentional and she just wanted you to enjoy the day as a guest instead of working.

Typically only the wedding party, parents, and grandparents are invited to the rehearsal dinner, though. It would've been very kind of her to extend the invitation to you, but perhaps she isn't in charge of the guest list? My in-laws handled everything to do with the RD including the invitations.

Have you talked to her? It's so easy to have tunnel vision close to a wedding and not realize you hurt someone

The rehearsal dinner is traditionally for the people that are in the rehearsal as PP has said. I would not take it personally and I'm sure they really appreciate your help.

I'd be upset. Since she's asking favors.

ETA: Nothing you can really do about it though.

There's no need for you to be there, there's nothing you need to rehearse.

She was wrong to ask you to do anything at all for her wedding. You're right to be hurt. Also, I don't blame you one bit for expecting an invite to the rehearsal dinner when you're working her wedding for free.

It would have been nice of her to invite you, but it certainly was not necessary. Your role does not require that you rehearse.

No, she did not need to invite you to the rehearsal dinner.

That is for the people who actually rehearse. Some people include out of town guests as well, but that is optional.

Rehearsal dinners are for the people actually rehearsing the wedding? I can see why you would be hurt about her asking you for favors and then going back on them, but I don't think that warrants an invite to the RD.

I feel that since I am her dad's sis, she asked me to do flowers then "unasked" me and asked if I'd do the book instead - an invite to the rehearsal dinner would've definitely been in order. At least as a thank u and especially since our family has always been close.

Your wedding is like super close, shouldn't you be worrying about your own wedding right now instead of working on someone elses and being upset about not being invited to her party?

Sally, the OP probably just put in a date so she could ask a question. Simmer down.

Liz, no. That's not how this works. That's not how any of this works.

I was just curious lol I would be relieved that I no longer had to do flowers for someones wedding when mine was this month!

No, there is no need to invite you to the RD, no need for you to watch the guest book, and no need to become unpaid labor for your family.

@OP I have a lot of aunts and uncles and cousins. We just can't invite them all to the rehearsal dinner. It's not personal. I'm sure she will say thank you for doing the guest book. She is trying to honor you by being involved in some way because you are close

I would only have expected an invitation to someone's RD if I was in their WP or the parent, grandparent, or sibling of the couple getting married. Or if I was the SO of any of those people. It doesn't sound like you are, so there's definitely been no breach of etiquette in not inviting you to this event.

I get that your feelings are hurt that you were asked to help with the florals and then she asked you not to, but it's not written anywhere that an invitation to the RD is the way to make up for that. It sounds like she asked you to tend to the guest book to make up for not needing you to do the florals anymore, and guest book attendant isn't really something that requires a RD invite. What would you be rehearsing?

Lol no. That's not how that works.

That's definitely not how this works...

I would say the only thing that would be "in order" would be a big huge thank you to you for doing her any favors. But that's about it. Vendors, whether paid professionals or free friendors, are not typically invited to the RD (with the exception of maybe the officiant).

U people are really mean. I couldnt be so callous to someone whose feelings were hurt. Nor would i ever not invite my own aunt to my rehearsal dinner when she was doing my flowers out of the goodness of her heart and is part of the wedding, especially since we are a close family. It's obvious that hardly any of u bothered to really read what I wrote, but enjoy jumping on here to be authoritative. Very sorry I asked. Good luck with your own weddings. Take care.