Not invited to my bf cousin wedding

Sorry that's so rude!

What the actual fuck. The is rude and tacky as hell from them. Hopefully your FH will reach out to them and find out WHY. And if the reason is not good enough, you guys get to decide who gets invited for your events and you guys get to decide if your FH even wants to attend this wedding...

Even if he talks to them and they say you could come I wouldn't want to after all that. My FH would never attend that wedding and I hope yours would decline also. I'm sorry they did that to you, that's REALLY shitty of them. Please keep us posted on what happens.

Nope. Not OK on their part. This seems pretty personal to me. Have you had any issues with this family in the past that would cause them to do this (which would still not make it OK). You are the mother of his child and have been in a serious relationship and living together for long enough for you to 100% be invited along with him. Its really your SOs decision but this is a huge slap in the face and he may want to reconsider attending this event since they decided to not invite his mothers child/live in girlfriend. Sorry you are having to deal with this, it's a shame when people pull stuff like this.

WOW.

You are a social unit and it is the WORST etiquette to split up social units. I would never attend a wedding if my husband was not invited also. Your bf needs to reach out to his cousin and hope its an oversight.

Edit: WTF??!!! Just saw your comment that they included a note that you weren't invited. WHAT.THE.FCK. He needs to reach out immediately and ask why!

That is insanely rude!

This is why you never point out who isn't invited. Even if the note had been more civil than the rude piece of sh&! it was, it still would have been rude AF.

Your FH just needs to decline and tell them why. Don't even bother talking them into it. Just decline. If my significant other even considered going to this wedding under these circumstances, that would be deal-breaker territory for me.

Also, don't invite these heinous people to your wedding. There's nothing petty about it, honestly. They disrespected you in a vocal way with that note and they didn't care if it hurt your feelings. That would tell me exactly how they feel about me and I'd feel zero inclination to invite them to an event I'm hosting.

Wow, what assholes. You should definitely not invite them to anything. The note pushed it into a whole new territory.

Your SO should decline the invitation and not send a gift. This was not an oversight, it was pure rudeness.

If they Donot invite you , You should t Invite them ... and if it was Myself My Man wouldn't be going ... Because we Are a TEAM ..Family or No Family .. we plan on spending the rest of our lives with each other

I'm sorry. If it were me, I would refuse to be the bigger person. Especially if they left a note saying you weren't invited. I would definitely not invite them to my baby shower.

Nope. Your FH should not be going to their wedding, and I would not invite them to the baby shower.

I made it clear to my husband when we started trying to conceive that I am the gatekeeper to my children. If you treat me like shit, you do not get to see my children. I don't care if that makes me seem like a bitch - I refuse to sit in a room with people who treat me poorly and let them have access to my kids. And wouldn't you know - ever since my kids were born, my MIL has never been nicer to me. Set the boundaries now.

I would totally invite her to the shower. If she's going to be rude enough to not invite you to the wedding, then invite her to your shower for the sole purpose of getting presents/things for your baby. Let her buy you/the baby presents, whereas you don't spend a red cent on her.

I wouldn't give them an invite to the baby shower. You get no points for being the bigger person, and you will have so much stuff, another pack of diapers and more baby socks wont make a difference.

What assclowns!! That is rude as hell. He should RSVP yes and then not show up.

FH should talk to them but it sounds like he should not plan on going either. Im a spiteful bitch, I wouldnt be inviting them to the shower, especially after the note in the wedding invite.

That's rude, especially considering you're living with him & pregnant. Did you FH ask them why you're not invited?

Wtf. They put a note in and said "sorry Nancy your not invited?" I would be livid! FH needs to step in and demand respect for the mother of his child/ future wife.

Kill them with kindness