Not invited to my bf cousin wedding

That's poor etiquette on their part.

Also, it's poor etiquette to plan your own baby shower.

When my cousin married, one invitation was sent to the house where my parents and I lived. I was in graduate school, so I definitely should have had my own invitation. My older sister had been living with her boyfriend in her own/purchased home for about 3 years. I had been dating my high school sweetheart for over 6 years. I ended up marrying him a couple of years later.

Neither of the guys were invited. Considering it involved a plane trip, hotel rooms, bigger rental car, more meals, and they didn't know anyone but us there, we just went without them. Considering it was one of the worst hosted weddings (quantity and quality of food at suppertime) that we've ever attended, we were sorry that we went ourselves. It's the only wedding I've ever attended without table assignments and we got stuck at a table with 2 bratty, uninvited kids. The ceremony and meagre cocktail hour food were held outside, in brutal heat. The whole thing just screamed "we don't care about guest comfort and hosting!"

If you are not invited even after confronting them, bf better stay home lol

Me being the petty person I am I'd be so tempted to send them a note "sorry ____, you're not invited to the baby shower". But, being the bigger person is an option too.

Update us if you can when your boyfriend confronts them! And what his decision is.

Sorry but fuck that. It is completely rude and unacceptable to not invite BOTH parts of a social unit. If I were your FH, I would totally and completely decline. They would also not be invited to my baby shower. Sorry not sorry.

Their actual words were "Sorry Nancy, you're not invited"? That is word for word what was on the paper?

I am speechless at the note they left in the invitation. WTF! Your FH had better decline this invite. And I'm sorry, but I would leave this cousin off the shower list for sure.

WOW - they really sent a note saying you're not invited?

Either FH would be having a talk with them, or I'd be talking to FH about not attending because that is so rude.

BUT - that said - you be the bigger person and show them you're a more gracious host

Wow that's super rude. These people sound awful. Your FH better not attend that wedding! And honestly, I don't think you need to be the "bigger person"- don't invite these people to your baby shower.

Wow. What shitty people. I hope your bf is stepping up or not going.

That's rude af.

WTF don't let them get away with that!!!! Especially with that rude note!!!!!!

Social unit. you should be invited too

I agree with chip. FH needs to talk to them about including you, or he needs to skip this wedding.

That is so rude, especially when it's obvious it wasn't an accident.

That's so not cool. I second the Petty Betty. I wouldn't invite them to your wedding. I would invite them to the shower because you can never have enough baby stuff. I'd ask my partner not to attend without me.

Wow that's awful! That is beyond tacky and beyond rude. I hope your boyfriend can get them to let you go but if not just at least be the bigger person for the baby shower. Your wedding? Leave them out of it. Personally, I'd be the biggest Petty Betty ever haha!

I would definitely ask my FH to not attended. I'd feel disrespected and explain to him why i felt that way in hopes he understood my feelings. I think FH would be livid if he was invited and I was deliberately told I was not.

RUDE AF! If they don't fix that FH should not go without you. My FH would not go. I also would not invite said cousin to my babyshower. #I'mpettysometimes

If it was me I wouldn't invite them to the baby shower either! That is so rude and to address it like that saying sorry you're not invited it so awful. I know my FH would have been livid if his family invited him and specifically said I wasn't invited especially if I was pregnant at the time.

That's terrible! Who does that?? FH needs to step up & say something. & if you're not invited, he sure as heck better not go without you. I wouldn't blame you for not inviting them to your shower.

FH should decline the wedding invitation and I would not invite them to your shower. That is unacceptable behavior from his family. Why reward it/say it's ok because that's what you and your FH will be doing if he goes without you and you invite them to your baby shower.

I'm sorry you're being treated like this.