Not invited to cousin's wedding, should I invite her to mine?

I wouldn't invite her, personally. I'm not petty but if I'm not important enough to be invited to yours, then you're obviously not really close enough to me for me to invite you to mine. ETA: I find it odd she invited your sister but not you. Did she just forget?

Are you close to her at all? Are you inviting other cousins? I think it would be odd to not invite her if you were inviting all your other cousins. If she was the only one you were inviting, I don't think you NEED to invite her.

It's very possible that your invite got lost in the mail.

One, I find that very tacky of her to "remind on Facebook to RSVP". who does this? so rude!! Which is up there with putting your registry info on your FB status. I see it from "friends" all the time...its so annoying, why do people think this is okay??

Any ways, no you don't "have" to invite her to yours, but since she posted publicly on facebook for the world to see, it wouldn't seem so tacky to ask "did my invite get lost in the mail?" especially since your sister was invited , were your parents invited??

You still have time to make that decision about your wedding. Whether or not you went the first time around and gave a gift isn't really relevant. Your wedding is still a ways off so you may not realize... guest lists are hard. It is impossible to please and accommodate everyone. Are you close to her soon-to-be DH? We had a smaller wedding, so I didn't invite any of my cousins (and I have a lot of them). It seemed like the fairest way to handle it. Some I am close to, some I am not. The only cousin to throw a fit about it is one that I haven't seen in 14 years and wouldn't have come anyway. Besides our immediate families we invited a small group of friends that are close to BOTH of us... people who have actively been supportive of our relationship.

While I am hesitant to go with the "invite got lost in the mail excuse," it sounds like in this case your invitation might actually have gotten lost in the mail. It would be weird for her to invite your sister and not you to her second wedding, particularly if it is a larger wedding than the first one you were invited to and attended.

How is it possible that she invited your sister and not you?? That is so beyond rude, especially for someone who is family! I know this is awkward but maybe you should ask if you were supposed to get an invitation? Its her rudeness to not invite you in the first place, so I don't think its rude to ask.

Are you sure you weren't invited? I've seen this happen where someone thought they didn't get a invite, and it either got lost in the mail, or their kid or house-sitter got the invite in hand and tossed it aside somewhere.

not sure how you would find out what the situation is- can you ask her mother or something?

Personally, I would not invite her to mine.

I'm putting in a vote for lost in the mail. She'll call you asking about your RSVP after they are due. You have time to decide.

I have a lot of cousins, some as old as my parents (who both passed away) and I am not inviting many of them because I did not grow up with them. This one, I did, she is just a few years younger than me. My sister is 8 years older than me, and her kids were invited as well, and they don't even know the bride. My brother was't invited either, so I figure it wasn't lost in the mail. But I will wait to see if I'm contacted. I totally agree that the Facebook posts are tacky.

Is there any chance she just assumed you were included on your sisters invitation? You definitely should have gotten your own, but maybe it's just a misunderstanding? If it's not, I would definitely not be inviting her to mine. I would understand if she was having a very small and private wedding, but as you said she is having a large wedding...

No chance of being on my sister's invitation. I've lived in the same place for 20 years, my sister moves every 6 months. My invitations for all of her sisters' baby showers that she threw got to me. and I went to them and gave gifts. I made that point just to justify that I'm not one of those people that always gets invited and never shows up (like my sister).

I would definitely follow up and inquire about it being lost in the mail. My cousin sent her invitation to my old address and we never figured it out until too late.

I also think that maybe it got lost in the mail, but if it didn't and she really didn't invite you but invited your sister then just don't invite her but make sure you invite her sister. Done.