Not having liquor or guests purchasing their own

What Celia said.

Something recently came up and someone said if you get a licensed bartender to serve you aren't liable for anything that happens. Go that route if you're scared.

I know a lot of people are okay with them and I certainly don't want to offend anyone but I just don't think dry weddings are an okay thing to do unless maybe it's a lunch deal. My two cents.

ETA: but absolutely do not have your guests bring their own alcohol.

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I don't see in the post where it says anything about BYOB- sounds like she's talking about a cash bar.

I don't like the idea of cash bars at things, but I don't think they are inappropriate.

I'll never understand the attitude that you have to have alcohol available, but it is a choice.

I imagine that a lot of people leave early if there's no alcohol. but if that's what it takes to get them to stay at the wedding, I don't need them.

I gave a invite a few weeks ago to a man at the church. in general he's a nice guy that always makes a point of talking to us, so I thought it would be nice for him to have a invite.

he asked if there was going to be a open bar, and i told him there wasn't going to be alcohol.

"why don't you have it available for people that want it?"

"we just don't want to deal with all the problems it can cause"

"you don't cut the alcohol, you have someone there to kick people out once they become a problem!"

okay............

We are not having alcohol at our wedding. I cant stand people to get obnoxious and i know people would. That being said one of our friends asked if people could bring their own or if it was completely dry. We want completely dry but I think it is totally up to you!

You know your guests better than we do. We are also going for a laid back, backyard wedding in FMIL barn.

I can't stand the "standards" for weddings.

and alcohol is allllllllll toooooooo common in this world, and the problems that arise from it truly sadden me.

I was forced to have a dry wedding due to my venues strict rules. If you do opt for a dry wedding, maybe have some type of fun bar. I had an ice cream/ice cream float/milkshake bar and it was a complete HIT. Guests still can't stop talking about it.

If you're inviting adults to your wedding, they will not get sloppy shitty drunk and pee in the fountain. If you have guests that have two drinks and get obnoxious, then maybe you need new friends.....

just a thought.

I think Miziz's meme said it all.

I agree with Celia. If you have friends that are the type to get obnoxious and cause a scene at your wedding, then they are the kind of people that will do it whether or not you provide the alcohol. They do have this thing nowadays called a flask.

Some adults do get shitty drunk. My brother had an adult friend and his girl friend pretty much getting it on, on the dance floor. He was picking her up and thrusting. I'm the same as Kianna. Not only did my venue not allow it without getting my OWN liquor license, I didn't want a repeat of my brothers. I know my guests. Sounds like Kianna knows hers too.

Whyyyy

How about 90% of my guest list is family and I wouldnt cut them out of my wedding. They all still choose to come after knowing there will be no alcohol. Sounds like other people just need to learn to have fun without alcohol.

I've been to a cash bar wedding and a wedding with a full open bar. I had fun at both but I was also at both weddings because I truly wanted to see my friends get married. I think you should do what makes YOU happy and causes you the least stress. Anyone who complains or doesn't come... their loss! Good luck!

@ Kianna, do what is best for you and your FH. I wanted alcohol, but I didn't get it, oh well! My friends and family still had fun and can't stop talking about it. Most even said they didn't give a flip about us not having alcohol. People should not be there just for the alcohol, they should be there to celebrate you and FH's union.

Andeejai I completely agree!

I have nothing against people having alcohol at a wedding but no one should have to feel like they have to have it.

Oh, boys.

Personally, I wouldn't consider having my guests pay for booze. Many (myself included) think that's tacky. We are also the partying crowd, so for my wedding, we had booze.

We did a wedding with a sober groom, so the bride and groom elected to have mocktails and have vodka to add for those who wanted it. Perfect.

It may be totally appropriate for you to have a dry wedding. Only you truly know your crowd. Since you are on here questioning it, my thought is that you know that your crowd probably could use a few drinks.

Beer & wine is a great alternative. If you don't want a lot, skip the cocktail hour and just serve wine with dinner. Eliminating hard alcohol often times eliminates the hardcore drunkies from your wedding. It's not necessary to do a sig cocktail if you want to eliminate that (although they are really fun). The hardcore drunks can have their fun after the wedding

Sangria is a great alternative too, and you can juice-down the wine that way.

I have also been to a VERY DIY country wedding where everyone brought their own booze. The planner in me cringed at this idea, but the crowd was totally ok with it, and it was actually fun to mix and match the types of alcohol brought. Again, not my style, but for that crowd, it worked.

I feel like it is definitely okay for you to have a Dry.. BUT, You should also look into cash some people want to party they don't care to pay - as long as you let them know!

Definitely let them purchase their own.

Borrowing from another thread, something to the tune of: "If you want to create that elusive "party" atmosphere, make sure your guests are happy and comfortable". Yes, your day is about you, but you are hosting other people and (hopefully) the goal is for them to enjoy themselves. In all honesty, I'd be disappointed a dry wedding. The most fun weddings I've been to were where the guests had a few drinks and all danced the night away to really good music. I simply can't picture a party with no alcohol (at least beer and wine) being conducive to that environment among my social circle. But we all (my friends) enjoy a few cocktails during a night out. In my world, people would stay at a dry wedding long enough to be polite, and then leave to go get a drink. Ultimately, you know your guests. If that's not their scene, they won't care. Cash bars put me off a little, but I'd still rather have one than not be able to have a drink or two to loosen me up in a room full of mostly strangers.

Why so many saying don't do dry? why is alcohol considered to be such a necessary thing?

I get the idea that many people want to leave early if they don't get their alcohol, but why is it so important?

I think if you have that many people that will leave if they can't drink then that is a reason for looking for new friends.

I agree stitchingbride. I am having a dry wedding, but FH and I like to drink. Going to a dry wedding wouldn't turn me off at all, as I'm not going for the alcohol, but to support the newlyweds and celebrate with them.