Non RSVP-ers

What do you ladies do if someone doesn't RSVP? Do you call them on the RSVP by date? Or do you just assume they aren't coming?

If they don't RSVP they don't eat!

I pursued and called and emailed. I waited until a few days after the RSVP date. Some people didn't answer until the week before the wedding!

@Lisa - today is my deadline day. I'm guilty of sneaking in at the buzzer for RSVPs too, so I'm giving people until Monday before I start harassing them. Usually they'll get back you by text or whatever

if they STILL don't reply, then I'll reach out to them again and say something like "If I don't hear from you by X date I will have to assume that you aren't able to join us"

This was one of my faves.

I also waited a few days after and called/texted/emailed people we hadn't heard from. But SO annoying to have to do that!!!

This is my favorite

Call them. USPS is not at all fool proof -- invites and RSVPs have gotten lost for a number of brides on here, so taking the extra step to make sure they a. got the invitation, b. know that they really do need to RSVP, c. have the chance to give you an accurate reponse and d. make sure they understand that a lack of response means no, so please don't show up is in your best interest.

"If we don't hear from you by X, we will be unable to accommodate you at the wedding. Hope you're able to make it!" And whatnot.

Alright thanks ladies! And LOL at these memes!

Hahah! I love it! That's an AWESOME picture.

My parents start harassing their siblings/nieces/nephews for RSVPs like the week before the deadline lol. I followed up with a handul of people via facebook/text/phone calls after the deadline, too.

The rsvp issue is why I am having a small wedding.. And I still am so not looking forward to it..

We kept on our guests long before the RSVP date so much so that by the time it rolled around I think we only had about 10 people who had not replied. Right before we had to turn in final count, I double checked with the 2 who had not replied and for those I just marked them down as a no. It wouldn't have been a problem if they had shown up b/c we ended up with about 19 people who RSVP'd they would be there who were a no call/no show.

Lmao. I'm so instagramming those once my invites go out. My friends totally respond to passive aggressive nudges. lol

@Mrs V (Roe) - how did you handle those 19 that said they were coming and didn't show up? Not that I'm asking what did you do in that moment, but this is the part that I'm dreading is folks who say they're coming and then dont' show...makes me want to invoice their tails. Of course you have your unexpected emergencies, can't help it situations, but come on....sorry, mini-rant!

Im not even bothering with RSVPs. I was lucky enough to find a self-proprietor caterer who cooks on site, and takes orders on the day, and bills me after the wedding. So whoever shows up, they cook them a meal and send me a bill after the wedding. One major stress off my head! As far as favors and programs go, im making 85. Period. If someone doesnt get one, boo freakin hoo.

Well at least two of them did let us know so actually it was 17 and we were able to find someone to fill in for one of them. Not much we could do about those who didnt' show. Two of them I actually fussed at b/c they weren't originally going to be invited but pulled on my sentimentality and I invited them only to have them not show. Trust me I really wanted to invoice everyone who was that rude but at the end of the day, I had to refocus myself to appreciate what was the most important aspect of the day and that was that we still had a beautiful ceremony and reception and ended up married to each other. Otherwise I would have lost quite a few relationships over it.

ETA: WTG @ Jackie!!!

I learned a hard lesson regarding RSVP'S. According to my fiancé's family it is not required by them to rsvp because they feel that the invitation being sent to them is all they need to just show up and eat my food! I tried calling, emailing, texting, FB, Instagram, and asking my mother in law but we ended up hearing crickets from 23 people. Nonetheless I am including them in my headcount because it would be RUDE to not. UGH!

I haven't reached that point either. I just wanted to post a funny RSVP pic too. lol

I'm curious...how many non-responders are there, as a rule?

For example, if you can say (generally) that 20% will decline, what is the percentage of no response? 10% 5%?

The non-RSVPers don't bother me nearly as much as the no-shows! My FSIL had 10 and FMIL still harps on it three years later. I think most were from FFIL's side who haven't responded to our wedding yet. Just dandy. We told the family they are checking IDs at the security gate against a list we are providing. But we're not! I'm so evil.