Nobody came to my wedding.

I'd be hurt as well! It's ok though, you're married to an awesome guy and headed out for an amazing vacation.

Screw everyone!

This breaks my heart to hear and I don't even know you in person. I am so sorry. You do have a right to be upset, this is my nightmare. It's one thing to be told that tons of people aren't coming, but to say you will and don't show up is BS. *hugs* I am glad that you did not let it ruin your day, but believe me when I say that I would let those 30 people know how hurt I was. Yes, there is nothing they can do to fix it now, but maybe knowing how much it hurt will help stop them from doing it to someone else. I have never bailed on a wedding I said I would go to, I went to a party on so many anti cold crap because I said I would be there and I know how much this stuff costs. I just hurt for you. I am so so sorry.

It's totally okay to be hurt. I would be. Go have an awesome time on your honeymoon!

RSVP date was on Halloween. Invites were sent out in August.

So sorry that happened to you! I would be mad too that no one showed up who said that would. That's wrong if you ask me. At least you still had a good time and you're still married to the love of your life! Forget about them and enjoy your honeymoon!

I'm sorry that happened to you! People really suck sometimes! But yay you are married!!!

I'm so sorry this happened to you, I would be hurt as well. Just focus on the people who were there and know that they are the ones that truly care about you and that's who has your back

Girl I am so sorry this happened to you. People are so shitty...I had several RSVP-Yes-and-then-no-shows at my wedding as well. You and your hubby are adorable and I'm sending hugs your way!

Have an awesome honeymoon!

My first inclination would be to send the No Shows a bill for their uneaten meal!

So sorry. I'm with PPs in that you should try to focus on the positive-- but I know it stings and for that I'm sorry.

First off, I want to say Congrats on your marriage!

I am so sorry to hear that all of the guests you expected did not show up. But as some have said... Highlight the good. 30 people you and your husband love shared your wedding day with you. That's awesome! What's even better is the people who didn't show with no valid excuse showed you their true colors. Can't be mad at that.

That stinks royally and you will be upset- anyone would! The money out the window doesn't help either! Focus on who came and try to let it go. I'm so sorry!

I'm so sorry. Even before I worked in the wedding industry, I took a commitment to attend a wedding seriously. After I began working in the industry, I took them even more seriously. Putting together a wedding is expensive and stressful. Each and every confirmed guest has a dollar figure attached to them, and the thought that people just blow that off shows an ugly side of human nature. Beyond the financial impact, the emotional impact is huge. Empty tables and chairs -- especially when there are lots of them -- really hurt. That's just the truth.

I think your attitude is amazing (I know couples who would have reacted very badly in the same situation).

I don't want to belabor the point, but I am really confused by the high level of no-shows. Do you have a reputation of attending the events hosted by your co-workers? Is there anything going on at work -- anything at all -- that may have affected their decision to just blow off your wedding? I looked at your venue, and while it doesn't have a lot of reviews, it looks very rustic, pretty, and woodsy. You were serving alcohol, so it wasn't an "it's a dry wedding -- I'm not going" type of thing. It doesn't sound like you self-catered, so that couldn't be the issue. I'm assuming you didn't get married at 8:00 AM on a Saturday, so it's not that. I really don't get it, but I'll tell you one thing, it's not something I'd be willing to forget. As of today, these co-workers would see a new me -- professional, but not particularly friendly.

And whatever you do, when the excuses come rolling in (and they will), don't give them an easy out by saying, "Oh, I understand. It's okay." Honestly, I'd say, "See, that wasn't hard to say, was it? It would have been nice if you could have said it 24 - 48 hours ago."

Enjoy your wonderful honeymoon, and may your lives together be filled with joy, prosperity, and all good things.

That's really unfortunate. Look to the bright side though, you had 30 people who were there celebrating with you, and at the end of the day you got married!

I so agree with @The Centerpiece Flowers. I would be insulted as well.

You all have been very empathetic and while it's still made me cry at times, at least there's people who understand. @Centerpiece Flowers, I have attended all of the work-related events, paid and as a volunteer. This is not the first time that I have had this feeling surrounding the people I work with. They have reminded me several times that I am not one of the 'originals' from this small town and they don't seem to have my best interests at heart. My job requested that I move out here and I'm grateful for that because it is how my husband and I met. However, we are very far away from both of our families. We depend on our coworkers for almost our entire social lives. Josh and I have sacrificed very much to be here and to be first responders in this county....we live in a tiny house that's so far out in the country, we can't even get internet! I think that I what stings the most about it, is the sacrifice that we've made to be here, and the people that we make these sacrifices for not even showing up for a free meal and drinks.

This event was a big eye opener for us. We've realized that a sort of 'cleaning house' is in order, and we will probably be making our way towards better job positions sooner than we expected.

@abigail, your story is so heartbreaking. I'm sorry that you put yourself out there and extended such a gracious invitation to your work family only to have them shun you. It seems like there must have been some malicious collaboration in this. I just can't see that large a group of respondents not showing up without some vicious gossiping behind your backs. They sound like awful people. I would be upset too. I think you have every right to be.

That said, as an engineer I also work in a male-dominated field and I know the last thing that you want to do is show your emotions or your cards too openly. So hold your head high. Believe in yourself and believe in the 30 wonderful people who did come. And get hunting for a better job and a place where people respect and care about you! I hope you have an awesome honeymoon.

Same thing happened to me! I had over 110 RSVP and less than 100 showed

FutureMrsJCG...with all due respect, 10 no-shows at a 110 guest wedding isn't exactly that same thing Abigail dealt with. To have had the same experience, you would have had 55 guests who didn't show, not a little more than 10. I know you're trying to empathize with her, and that's really sweet of you. However, the visual impact she faced when seeing half of seats empty at her ceremony (not to mention the empty tables at her reception) had to have been massive.

Abigail -- I totally get that "you're not an original" vibe. The very first house we bought, some 25 years ago, was a small, handyman special in rural NY. I literally hated it, and part of the reason I hated it was because we were called "Flat Landers". I guess the locals thought that was funny, but we were never able to break through the barrier of their community. Until the day we left, we were considered the people from Jersey.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, but the day will come when you'll sell that house, move to a more inclusive area, and look back on your time in this town as a not-so-great pit stop on your journey through life.