No Vegetarian Options - Vent

I would bring a big picnic basket with you. Make a huge production out of it. Plop the basket in the middle of the table and when people ask what you're doing, tell them the happy couple refused to provide food you could eat and told you to bring your own.

That's incredibly rude. Ugh.

WOW! WOW!! I understand some people might not think of this beforehand, but to ask you to bring your own food is beyond rude. Its really not hard to have a couple of items that are all veggie. I have an aunt who can't stand the smell of meat, so I try to be sure to accommodate her at any family gathering.

I LOVE the picnic basket idea, if you decide to attend anyway.

Omg that is so rude! I would RSVP no in a heart beat. I sometimes choose the vegetarian option because it sounds better than the others.

I felt so guilty at my reception. One of my best friends had recently broken up with her boyfriend and she asked to bring her roommate. Her roommate texted me asking to be seated at a vegan only table. I had to tell her we didn't have one. She replied saying she's on a "cleansing" cycle where she can't share a table with people who eat meat, dairy, eggs, etc. I told her I understood (I was a vegetarian for 8 years) but I wasn't going to be able to accommodate that dietary need. The day of the wedding I had a small nut tray and hummus with veggies for her. She dramatically ripped them away from the catering attendants and ate them in the parking lot. *dramatic eye roll*

That's ridiculous! We had BBQ at our wedding this past weekend and we made sure we had at least 5 servings of vegan/vegetarian plates, we only had two vegetarians but wanted them to be able to have seconds if they wanted. Our caterer was super helpful and very accommodating!

@Mrsbdeg What?!?! I can only imagine the amount of drama that girl has in her life. She decided it was better to eat in the parking lot than to eat before coming if her cleansing cycle is so strict?? Hahahaha

It would be a hell no for me. Idk why she would say bring your own food smh

I think that's rude. My best friend (MOH) is vegan and I still made sure that there were options for her. With different diets this should have been considered in advance.

That is incredibly rude! Having a vegetarian option is standard at every catering business/venue. But to suggest you bring your own food? That's utterly classless and horrible. Are they self-catering? Even more of a reason to decline.

ETA: @Mrs. BdeG: that's a little extreme. She can't even sit at the same table? Yeah... I wouldn't be feeling guilty lol

They're definitely handling it badly by suggesting you bring your own food, but you're being a little dramatic here. There are tons of non-meat options at any standard barbecue. Just because they don't have a special entree for you doesn't mean they don't have food you can eat. It's one meal. Grab some potatoes and grilled veggies, and let it go.

That is SO rude. i'm a lifelong vegetarian and i can't even count the number of times i've been told to bring my own food to BBQs and other events, but somehow i've always been pretty lucky at weddings. if it were me, i would probably decline the invitation.

That is very rude, but I'm super glad you posted this because it prompted me to double check my menu and ensure there's a veggie option (there is, whew).

Casey, the place she's catering from pretty much has potato salad as its only non-meat option. The baked beans and green beans have bacon in them.

Yes, and this would be a wedding that I woudlnt attend. The caterer can prepare a meal for people that have dietary restrictions, good allergies and Vegetarian's. Sound like they didn't want to spend the money on the minimal amount of people who needed a vegetarian option. Smh. My friend found out shes allergic to chicken, potatoes and a few other common food items that we are serving. Even though she's the only one that has an issue like this I'm accommodating her because she's a friend and I care that she enjoys her meal too.

I think that's ridiculous. My FMIL and FH's grandmother have food allergies, and I made sure our bakery and caterer could accommodate both of them.

I wouldn't attend unless they have something you can eat, like corn on the cob, baked potatoes or something that would complete a meal for you.

I like the picnic basket idea if you feel like the friendship is done. I think that's really rude. I am sure there are other vegetarians who feel the same. I would clarify if there are sides you can eat before you pack up that basket though...BBQ sides are usually really filling and don't use meat.

She should still take those dietary restrictions into account. I have a friend who eats kosher, at non-Jewish weddings they always go with the veg option for religious reasons. This person sounds backwards.

That's rude as shit. We are having BBQ and are having several options available for vegetarians. There's really no excuse.

I agree with PPers that is a really bizarre thing to ask you to do. I have a friend whose food allergies are evolving rapidly and I'm making sure that she can eat food safely at my wedding. Offering some vegetarian friendly options is much easier than that.

Your option not to go.

Your option not to go.