No usher for mob

View Quoted Comment Like with subshine and rainbows!

I was debating whether OP was being wishy washy or if her daughter was being bridezilla. Came back to see what else was said and completely agree.

View Quoted Comment Agree with what?

View Quoted Comment Everything that Stephanie said.

View Quoted Comment Yea I guess I created the mess. Lessons learned. I’ll stand my ground and find someone to push my mother in.

I never understand why more people don't have both parents walk them down the aisle. My mom and dad are both walking me down the aisle - this is customary in my culture, but I think it's a great idea and I don't really get why it isn't mroe common.

View Quoted Comment I’m not trying to be mean but your daughter should show so much more appreciation for the fact that you are footing the bill for her Wedding. She is being selfish. I also cannot understand how she doesn’t seem to care about her grandmother. I was lucky enough to book my dream venue (for sentimental reasons) that was 45 minutes from us. I knew this would create a hardship for my mom (caregiver for my dad) and grandmother (who would have to travel over an hour and a half at 80 years old). I spoke to both of them before we even toured the venue and both of them told me to book if that’s where I wanted. That they would work things out. Even after booking I made arrangements for rides/accommodations for my grandmother. My DH and I paid for everything ourselves. Even though we paid for everything there were a few close friends of my parents that I grew up around and extended invites to my mOm if she wanted to invite them.

Oh I know your not trying to be mean. I appreciate all the advice and suggestions from everyone on this site. My daughter has always had issues with me and nobody knows why. I beg to spend time with her but she always says no. I love her to death and hope someday it will all work out. I am backing out of helping her plan anything more. It needs to be her wedding, her choices, her successes or her failures. It’s not how I planned this process as going but I’m not going to try to force any issues. I just really wasn’t happy about having to push my mom, and with the advise I received it has given me the courage to say no I won’t do it but I’ll find someone who will. Thank you!!

View Quoted Comment If it needs to be her successes and her failures, it can be her payment. I’m still “team ungrateful daughter” and she needs to do a liiiittle more than just get someone to help her VIPs get to their seats safely.

View Quoted Comment Fully agree. This is absolutely unacceptable even if they aren’t paying.

I think you’re being a bit unreasonable. Why do you have to wear heels especially since you know you’ll have to walk outside? Wear flats. Have your husband help push your mom if you can’t. I push my aunt in a wheel chair often and it’s not that hard. I also don’t see why you need to be escorted down the aisle. We’re not doing escorts because it’s antiquatied and awkward, I also believe that since the not your wedding you shouldn’t be walking down the aisle anyways. Also about the neighbors, you have 70 guests attending. That’s practically 1/3 of the entire guest list and you want to add more?? You said your daughter is trying to keep costs down and a good way to do that is cut the guest list. I think you sit down and remember that’s it’s not your wedding and your daughter is free to make her own choices