No usher for mob

You're over reacting. We aren't doing ushering in his parents. They will walk in and find their seats like all the other guests.

Ok thanks I’ll let it go than!

Definitely being over sensitive. I would ask for a few guests to invite if I were you, that’s just common courtesy, but it depends on the total guest count. There’s more wiggle room at 100 guests than at 20 guests. My mom is paying for most of the wedding and asked me if she could invite someone, I said yes. That being said, don’t invite anyone who doesn’t know the couple being married, that’s just weird.

Yea their guest list is 200. I just wanted the 6 neighbors she grew up with, but I’ll let everything go.

Our parents are also not part of the professional. They will just go in as a regular guests. They will all have corsages/bouts and sit up front, just not part of the ceremony.

Why on earth are you paying for everything if they aren’t allowing you to invite any guests? Allowing a few is a common curtesy.

i think making you push grandma in a wheelchair in the grass is a bit odd. Are there no other men who can assist even if they aren’t having ushers?

time to start saying no

View Quoted Comment Yea I didn’t think asking for our 6 neighbors ( some who helped put together her graduation party) was such a big deal, but my daughter and her fiancé like to have control so anything I suggest.... they do the opposite

View Quoted Comment Yea in the heat of the summer it concerns me to be in heels pushing my mom with her oxygen tank in the grass but I guess I’ll just shut up and put up cause if I say anything it causes friction with my Hubble too.

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Well that is certainly your choice but you don't have to. You are paying for everything. It's ok to demand some basic respect. But if you prefer to let your adult kids act like brats hey you do you boo

Well that’s what I thought. It’s been a hard wedding to help with. They’re having DQ cake cause they don’t like cake , but the guests will get cake ( no big deal) the bride is in a $1700 dress, groom in a $1500 custom suit, bridesmaids all matching colored dress ( diff styles/ same length) groomsmen get to pick what they want from two diff places. IF they have ushers they can wear whatever they want. Picture disaster I think

Of you are paying for everything, it owould seem the couple would be courteous enough to allow you just a few guest. (Not an amount that would drastically change the headcount). However, if the wedding doesn't already have ushers, your request can be a bit much.

I forgot to add, perhaps a favorite nephew/niece or other family member can assist in pushing the wheelchair without officially being an usher. Good luck!

You don't need an usher.

Can your husband push grandma to her area a few minutes before the ceremony, get her situated, then you can be part of the processional...and he walk the bride down the aisle as planned or maybe the best man can do it as a nice best-manly type gesture?

I personally could not imagine making my mother push my grandmother's wheelchair WITH OXYGEN TANK while formally dressed. And I have been close to bridezilla on several occasions.

If you are paying for everything it's time to start lying out some rules or something.

We’re not having users. My FH is going to escort both moms down the aisle. You should pretty upset about this wedding. There’s probably more to this story, but if you’re this upset, why keep opening your pocket book?

Lol at the auto correct and not being able to edit on mobile. Such a genius move.

I tried to lay out rules and was told no you can’t invite the neighbors and get over it. My husband says nothing cause it’s his baby girl so it’s kind of a waste of time to try to explain how I feel. It is after all NOT my wedding. I’m sure it will work out, maybe not how I would do things but I have to realize times have changed.

Personally the only issue I see here is that your mom might now be safe if the wheelchair starts to tip or if you physically aren't strong enough to get her where she needs to go (I know I wouldn't be and would never in a million years ask my mom to, especially not when she would be dressed up). I wouldn't bother asking her though because to be honest your daughter seems hard to work with, but just ask one of your son's if you have one, a nephew or uncle, or even family friend to help with your mom so everyone gets there safe and dignified.

Yea I think I will. Either that or this Mom is wearing flip flops so she can dig in!!!

This sounds like a disaster. I would definitely close my wallet until I get a say.