No RSVP? You aren't getting in

Do you mean an actual sign at your wedding? I think most people follow up with the non-responders directly once the date for response has passed.

Yeah...you can't do that. If anyone fails to RSVP, you call them to find out if they are coming.

Are you thinking of posting this as a facebook status or something of that nature?

Or you follow up with people because maybe some got lost in the mail or maybe some forgot?

As much as I would love to do this, you really can't. If people don't rsvp you follow up with them. If people show up who rsvp'ed no then you figure it out. It's annoying but it's just the way it has to be.

You, making the phone call: "Hi, (name)? It's Kellye. We're trying to get a final count in and just want to know if you were coming or not."

If yes, the RSVP was mailed late/lost in the mail/etc.: "Terrific! I'll put your name down and we'll see you there!"

If no: "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. We'll have to find time to celebrate the big day with you at a later date. Would lunch or dinner work best for you? Either or? Just let you know? Sounds great to me. We'll keep in touch."

I feel your method probably won't work out for the best, if you want my honest opinion.

Or you could just follow up with the people who don't rsvp by the date.

Mail gets lost you know...

I get that everyone gets upset when you don't get back RSVP's, but keep in mind that sometimes there is a good explanation. Mail is definitely a factor. Last year I got a text from my cousin asking if I was coming to his wedding. Of course I was and could have sworn I sent back the RSVP as soon as I received the invite. But between then and when he texted I had major surgery and my focus was on recovery, not his wedding. I looked high and low for the RSVP card after receiving the text and never found it. I still don't know if I had actually sent it back or not. Either way, a simple text cleared up the issue. Reach out to those you don't hear back from.

Obviously follow up with people who don't respond because there's always issues with mail. I don't know what else you could say without being rude. However, I saw another person on here a while ago posted someone's invite and it said "if you don't rsvp by , please bring a sandwich and a chair" which I though was funny and got the message across. Not sure I'd do that myself haha

RSVPs get lost in the mail all the time. If your guests aren't worth the few seconds it will take you to follow up with them and see if they're attending, I would question why you're bothering to invite them in the first place.

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@MrsD17, I'm stealing that. I laughed a little too loud seeing that meme, lol.

I remember that @hannahdee. It was hilarious! I don't think I'd do it either, though.

LOL, happy to share @Jay!

I'm having this problem with one particular branch of my family. I've tried everything from facebook, to calling, to knocking on their door! The way I plan to handle it? They won't have seats at the reception, that simple. You can't exactly deny admittance to the site unless you have a bouncer lol.

"No admittance without RSVP" comes off very aggressively and won't set a great tone of your wedding invitations, which should be a happy and exciting thing

We all struggle with getting RSVPs back, but it's just kind of the deal! Give a clear RSVP by date, and individually follow up with every single guest who does not RSVP. They could have not received the invite, or the RSVP got lost in the mail, or who knows what.

If they didn't RSVP, and didn't respond to your follow-up attempt, it is perfectly acceptable to give them a final deadline - "Hi ___, I'm reaching out again about our wedding on 9/30/17. We're hoping you can attend, but we do need to turn in our final numbers to our caterers so that everyone has a meal If I don't hear from you by (date), then'll I'll assume you can't make it. Please let me know!"

This is VERY impolite and I agree with Lynnie it's pretty aggressive.

All you have to do is call the people who haven't RSVP'd by the date set on your invitations and find out if they're coming. If you truly can't get an answer out of them, you can assume they aren't coming. But you can't have a bouncer at your wedding forbidding entrance...

Tell them to bring a chair and a sandwich

As much as you may not want to do it, it's polite to call your guests to confirm if you do not receive an RSVP. This is not one of those "gurl, bye!" moments.

Ok. We will follow up with folks but they have to communicate that they are coming. We don't want people to just show up...or be uninvited guest.