No RSVP Response

Start following up with them the day after the deadline

I would call them a couple weeks before you need your final count to see if they are coming.

I know it can be nerve racking when you don't hear back from people. If you haven't received a response by Feb 2, then you should definitely call everyone who hasn't responded. They will understand that you need to confirm your numbers for the caterer and such.

I'm in the same boat. Our deadline is the 1st and I haven't even received half ours back yet. So freaking annoying.

Wait until the day after your deadline and start contacting the ones you aren't sure about. If you KNOW it's a no, don't even bother. Just go with it.

We are having a small wedding, and let's face it - I'm a tree hugger. So I have the RSVP on a website. I only have responses from 1/3rd of those invited, and that's partially because my mum was nice enough to start filling out the RSVP for her brothers and their spouses that she had talked to. As well, she is already bugging people since it's so easy. But in 2 weeks, I get to start making calls. *Sarcastic "Yay"*

Wait till the day after the deadline, maybe even a couple of days after - some people aren't bright enough to think that mail takes a couple of days to get to you, they may mail it on the 2nd.

Wait a couple days after, then give them a quick call to put your mind at rest.

I agree. Wait until the day after the deadline and start calling. Make FH help since some of his friends haven't responded.

Katie, your deadline is February 1st for a July wedding? That is insane. You will not get an accurate count that way.

OP, just wait til the deadline and even give another week if you can, then begin contacting them. You may find you get a flood of responses at the end. I got most responses right away or right at the end.

We hunted down RSVPs from many family members and I still am. It's frustrating, but it's part of the process. I have utilized facebook, text, email and phone to get my RSVPs.

I'm a month away from my deadline and I'm still freaking out that I haven't received half back . Man .... How hard is it to go online and and RSVP ? Ughhhhh the nerve of ppl ...

I chased the crap out of people before the deadline even expired. And then I had people changing their mind until the week of. D:

I had to follow-up with several invited guests. Most brides do. For whatever reason, it's just the way it is.

Definitely follow up with people who haven't RSVP'd. Most of them will probably have forgotten or are putting it off for some reason or just don't think they need to, but it's entirely possible that someone's invitation or RSVP got lost in the mail. This happened to my mom last year--she was invited to a wedding but never received the invitation. Thankfully the bride followed up with her or else she never would have known about the wedding!

Follow up but not before the deadline

OK, WTF. lol. I don't know what is going on. "Katie" is me. I was laying in bed last night browsing the forums. I responded to a couple threads and this morning I'm noticing that all my posts came up under Katie. WhoTF is Katie and how did that get on my phone?! I'm so confused.

The first time I didn't even worry about it, now I'm noticing this second one and I'm annoyed... I don't even have my phone with me to investigate with because I accidentally left it at home today. GAH.

So yeah, obviously my deadline on the 1st is for my March 7th date. Not July. That WOULD be stupid. Haha!

Wait a week, contact them once, then send them an email that says 'sorry you won't be joining us."

I have no patience for this crap. Adults are adults; they can jolly well RSVP in time.

Yeah, I'm having similar frustrations. Friday is our deadline and we still have 10 people out of 40 that haven't responded. Really. And lots of my aunts and uncles that got a "courtesy" invite (since they live far away and we knew they probably could come) still haven't responded. I mean, there's a stamp on it for a reason!

Unfortunately nearly 60% of our waited until the week they were due to RSVP.

I am SO glad to see this post. I had a major vent with FMIL last night about how inconsiderate I find the lack of courtesy to just RSVP. Ours is also through our website, so easy enough! Our deadline is next Friday and I wasn't sure how to go about following up either - so glad there is agreement about politely making a phone call. To hear that many of y'alls guests were just lazy and waiting until the last minute is a *slight* comfort that I won't have to chase up too many...