No RSVP Cards?

Almost everyone I know over 45, would be more likely to return the paper RSVP with the exception of one lady I know, and ALL these people have computers, email accounts and smart phones...except one gentleman who still has a flip phone!

We're doing RSVP cards but it's just to explain how to RSVP online. The cards are just being printed at staples. I just went to a wedding that did an RSVP online and I don't know if they had much of an issue and some friends did it a couple years ago and had good results. We sent out email save the dates in advance to everyone to get a feel of who will respond and expect we'll need to enter the RSVP for one set of grandparents. In total we're only sending out 34 invites so if we have to follow up with people it's easy enough. You know your guest list and if you think it will work I say go for it!

We did just the website, email or phone to RSVP. We only had to track down three people after the RSVP date (one was one of my bridesmaids, so didn't really count). I guess it depends on your crowd, but no paper RSVP's worked really well for us. Saying that it won't work is a blanket statement that is true for some, but not everyone. We had a small wedding though, 101 including the wedding party and us.

We plan to use the online RSVP with the option to call and confirm. I'd rather spend more money on things in the marriage then spend more money on the wedding. Thankfully my FH agrees with saving money any chance we can!

FH's cousin did that for her wedding and they had a ton of phone calls to make after the RSVP deadline. Some people forgot, and pretty much anyone in their family over the age of 50 just didn't rsvp. Also, I think there was an issue with that function on the website, because she said she checked on day and they had about 40 rsvps, checked a few days later and all but 2 or 3 were gone.

I'm having everyone RSVP online. I am also including my phone number for those who are not tech savvy, and that is about 10 people.

My cousin had a reception a year after getting married (wasn't' sure if her dad, my uncle, would survive to her day so they had a personal ceremony with the parents). Her invites said to RSVP by emailing ________ or call _______. That worked because for the older generations, they could call. But the younger people can email. I feel like it would be hectic keeping track of things this way, but I never heard her complain about the outcome. A cousin also recently used an online way to RSVP. I wasn't able to make it, but I liked the ease of using the computer. I just don't know how the older people RSVPd since there was no phone option.

I never use the word tacky. And I really think it's up to your guests. You know them, we don't. And, do you really care if someone will be upset with you over the way they have to RSVP? I think it's silly for a guest to get upset about that. If you do it, definitely add a phone option for the older people. We opted for RSVP cards just because, but I have no issue with online. People are going to talk if they want to talk. There is nothing you can change about that. If they don't complain about the RSVP, then they will complain about the design of the invite. It's too exhausting to care about their useless tiffs over silly things. So go for it, if you want.

I was a bridesmaid in a wedding that did online RSVPs and I loved it! For her, it kept track of who responded and who didnt, and the best part was, it eliminated people inviting extra guests too! Since you have to choose your name, it already has your plus one listed, or if you werent given a plus one, you don't get the option to add one!

However, look at your guest list....are there a lot of older people who are not internet friendly? If that is the case, this may not work well. Otherwise, I say go for it!

I wanted to do a Online or call only, but then I realized more than half of our guest list doesn't even own a computer..so we went with post cards.

We did that in addition to providing the option to email or call. We got about 50 percent of our RSVP's back via the website email. The other half we got via the traditional cards we included. I think you could give it a try but I would do what you can to make it easier for people to respond rather than not.

I found that a lot of my older folks could barely even figure out to get on the wedding website let alone remember the link (despite it being included on everything) and type the link in correctly.

We have a spot on the website to RSVP if they choose but included the paper RSVP cards w/ postage in the invite as well.

I don't think its tacky per se, but my cousins did this and they had just as much headache with people not rsvp-ing