No Mother-Son Dance

You don't have to do anything. You'll still be married regardless of whether your FH dances with his mother. Mine doesn't want to (he has been married before and said "been there, done that") and quite frankly I am not sure if I want to do the father-daughter dance. I still need to talk to my dad about that, but I don't like to be the center of attention in this way and I'm pretty sure he doesn't either.

You can give a toast at the wedding if you'd like to thank everyone, or even better, at the rehearsal dinner if you are having one. That's kind of our plan plus I'm going to dedicate their wedding song to them at some point during the night

We aren't doing the dance or an alternative.

We aren't doing the dance or an alternative.

My FH has flat out refused to dance at all at our wedding. I figured out that it's because he gets emotional and doesn't want anyone to see him get misty. he has finally agreed to dance with me, but is going to pass on dancing with his mom. doesn't bother me. I have to pick and choose my battles.

FH doesn't really dance so making him the center if attention for 2 dances seemed mean. We decided to join the mother/son dance with the father/daughter dance and have the 4 of us on the floor together (father/daughter is actually brother/sister in my cade cuz dad not around)

Would they be willing to do something like that?

Or start off ad them for like 30 seconds (maybe she will agree to a very short dance) then have the DJokovic announce to have other moms and sons join them and then she can quietly leave the floor when a few others get up there.

If she really WON'T dance at all maybe have a lullaby play that she used to sing to her son (if there is one), read a poem together that shows their love or share some quotes they both like

If BOTH of them don't care to do it, then don't force it. There's no need for alternatives. If anything, you can do a thank you speech and thank his mom for raising the man of your dreams.

I like the idea of dedicating their wedding song to them. That's different.

We weren't going to do either dance but our photographer told us we would be missing such a great photo op and when I thought about it, she was right. It helped that she said we didn't have to dance a whole song just long enough for a couple of pics to be taken. Maybe if you told your FH that he and his mom could cut it short, he'd be willing to do it. I actually like Soon To Be Mrs M's idea of comibining the two dances and maybe we will do that.

My DH did not have a mother/son dance. He doesn't like to dance, and I had to fight with him to give me our "first dance." It wasn't worth it to try to convince him to do one with his mom too, and she didn't care either way.

So we had our first dance, and my father/daughter dance and that was it. It was no big deal and no one was like "But WHYYYYY didn't he dance with his mom?" No alternative is really needed.

FH and his mom won't be. They don't want to so they aren't.

You don't need one. Why force it if they don't want to?

You don't need an alternative either

FH isn't doing it and is not doing an alternative. I'm happy if he's happy. I'm still doing the daughter/father dance though.

Yeah, forcing your fh and fmil to do something they don't want to will NOT get you off to a good start in your relationship. And let's be clear-- it's not part of the 'ceremony' it's part of the 'reception' and in no way changes how married you'll be. Skip it if they want and just have the father/daughter dance if you want.

My FH and FMIL will not be dancing. No alternative either. Neither of them want to do it, so hey that's cool.

To be clear, I'm not "forcing" him to do anything. I'm cool with it. I was just wondering if anyone had any alternatives to it. I appreciate everyone's input! ;-)

I also agree with OTW