No Kids at the Bridal Shower?

I would just tell them that you would prefer an adult only shower. I'm having a cocktail party themed shower. My shower will probably start at 7.

Have it at a location where children aren't allowed or make it at a time when it's inconvenient for children. OR...... have your family spread the word and make it known. I personally don't think a shower or wedding is appropriate for children (unless they are the flower girl or ring bearer!)

Go Edwina! I love showers that serve!

@Liane...I would just tell them straight up. THere is nothing wrong with a kidless bridal shower. Frankly, they are lucky you are including the children at the wedding. Good luck!

Seriously this is an issue?! DARN!! I dont think I have EVER been to a bridal shower were kids were even CONSIDERED; let alone in attendance. (no, I am not confusing this with the bachelorette party). I would do like sailingnurse said... have it somewhere kids aren't allowed.

Most of my family's bridal showers have kids there, but I would think if you told them that you want time with the girls, they would be happy to have 'big people time'

In my world, children are not welcome at a shower, nor the wedding, so I say, tell them no.

Why would anyone want to bring children to a bridal shower? This is a party for the bride, not kids.

This is so weird because I have the opposite problem. I babysit for many of our friends children and told our friends we would love to have the kids come too! Everyone wants to leave them at home for a night off haha So I guess if you don't want them there just insist they bring them - kind of like reverse psychology haha There, problem solved! :-p

My suggestion would be tell them you love their children and are happy to have them at the weddign but that the bridal shower is an adult setting and that you would never want children to see some of the gifts you expect to get even if you dont expect to get anything on the notty side and that their may be games that arent child apropriate.... try to make it sound as if you are watching out for the childrens well being not your personal wants.....

My sister sends me a text asking if she can bring my 4 yr old nephew and 8month neice to my Bridal Shower. My 1st reaction was heck no!! my nephew is not well behaved at all. How do I tell her no without causing an issue?

I hate being the sensitive one here...... I think weddings should absolutely include children, it's about two families coming together and celebrating that. However I do understand the bridal shower is a different setting. My brother is getting married and I am in the military and live very far away. My husband is underway and honestly if children are not allowed at the shower I may not be going. I think There are some circumstances where you may be limiting guests if you are not including children. But it's your event and wedding so honestly do exactly what you want, but decline having children attend in the most classy way possible.

I am having the same issue. My fiancé and I are well into our 30s and getting married for the first time. All our siblings and friends have kids, so to include kids would put our guests at an equal kid/adult ratio. I’m not picky about much in my wedding but I’ve waited so long to do this and I don’t want kids running around wreaking havoc while I’m trying to catch up with people I haven’t seen in years. I can allow infants that are still being breast fed, but that’s pretty much where I draw the line. Holiday events are for kids and the whole family. The more the merrier. A wedding is about 2 people coming together to start a family, kids don’t participate in anything unless they are the ring bearer and flower girl, and their mother refuses to bring them to the shower anyway! It’s not about the kids, it’s about the adults getting married, to me, assuming your kids are invited is a bit selfish.

Yeah I totally agree with most of you!! My little sister is a bridesmaid but I don't want her involved with the Bridal Shower incase I want to do something a little grown or adults (drinks, winery, etc). How do I still make her feel just as important? What would you guys recommend? She's 15 btw!

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That's really tough. She's old enough to be involved but too young to really do anything if you DO do adult-ish things. I would suggest a two-part shower. Maybe something early, as a "all women invited" shower and then a late night bachelorette-ish party with just you and your friends. She can go to the regular shower, and then its obvious she can't go to the bars/drinking. It will be easier for her to understand that she can't go.

I also don't want kids at my bridal shower, and am also having an adults-only wedding reception. Have you all specifically had it worded on the shower invitation as adult-only? Or do you just try to catch people when they RSVP or if they come out and ask if they can bring their kids? I would never assume that my (imaginary) kids are invited to something like a shower, especially if the invite is to only me, but I'm afraid there will be that ONE PERSON who just doesn't have common sense or courtesy.