I know there's a lot of these...so, sorry:
Okay, I'll try not to rant on this. Basically, I started my wedding planning with having a zero kids policy, excluding my baby sisters (flower girls) & FH's nephews (ring bearers). Thinking this would typically generate a positive response...I got the most criticism from my own mother. So now she is trying to convince me to have them just at the ceremony, and then have an "older" cousin take them back to someone's house and have like a pizza party or something. But then I feel like some will wind up staying and just causing a "why was my kid not invited but there's kids here?!?!" mess. We CANNOT talk about it without an argument starting, because I'm honestly so aggravated with it. She tells me I'm going to offend some of the family, but I see it as people having a date night and kid/stress-free. And honestly, if they get offended, then they don't need to come because it isn't THEIR big day. She makes me feel so guilty, though! And when I think about it, there's really not that many younger cousins? I think I'm setting the age limit to 16, that way they're old enough to behave responsibly and not throw a fit and make their parents leave. (Mom then had the nerve to ask me to bump it down to 13..UGH) Any advice on how to have a civil conversation about this? I seriously get so upset about it, but I just don't want kids there, it's not a personal attack on anyone!
