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No gifts at Bridal Shower?

Lecette, on December 17, 2019 at 11:07 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 7
My fiancé have lived together for 5 years. Any household items we needed we purchase on our own. My question is has anybody did a bridal shower with no gifts just cash donations for the honey moon? If so how did that workout? Did you regret it?


Latest activity by Kerri, on December 17, 2019 at 10:43 PM
  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    Hey Lecette! Bridal showers are specifically for "showering" the bride with gifts. So if you don't want physical gifts, I wouldn't have a shower. Instead you could have a bridal brunch/luncheon or something like that where everyone could still come eat/drink/play games and celebrate you as the bride!

    Since you don't need any physical gifts for the wedding, don't register and your guests will take the hint to give you cash/checks as your wedding gift Smiley smile

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    That sounds like more of a charity event than a shower. If you don’t want physical gifts, decline the offer for a shower, that’s literally what they’re for.
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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    First of all, money IS a gift. So, if someone hosted a shower and said "no gifts; please bring money" on the invitation it would be EXTRA offputting. But also, yeah, like it or not, showers have a long tradition of being an event to which people bring boxed gifts that will be opened at the party. Money makes that whole thing awkward.

    People will bring you gifts (in many cases, money) to your wedding, so there is no need to have an extra event to try to get more money. Please reconsider.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    If you aren't wanting gifts, I would decline having a shower. If you are dead set on having one, I would have a registry. People come to showers to bring gifts so you can either have a small registry or risk people not coming at all or ending up with 10 toasters.

    My now husband were together 7 years before we got married so needed nothing but my MOH was really wanted to throw us a shower. We had a "stock the bar" themed couples shower and everyone brought alcohol, bar tools, glass sets etc which was great. If you don't drink, what are some hobbies you and your FH like to do? Camping, fishing, hiking, outdoors? Register for new camping gear or upgrade your tents, backpacks, canteens etc.

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  • A
    Devoted July 2020
    Ali ·
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    We have told our guests that we dont want any gifts but if they insist on giving us something money is always appreciated as we have everything we need and the money will help to make our honeymoon better than it otherwise would be but not necessary. So we shall see what happens. Also we arent having a bridal shower. Because why? Why throw *another* party? No bachelor/ette parties either. We are ditching a LOT of the traditions.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    Bridal showers are for physical gifts in my opinion. I've never heard of one just for cash and I'd feel weird about going to a bridal shower with cash and not a physical gift. For the wedding I think that's fine, but not a shower.

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  • Kerri
    Savvy April 2022
    Kerri ·
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    You can always register at the honeymmoning website. There are sites like The Knot, Travelers Joy, The Wanders, and Honeyfund. Your Guest basically give cash to one of these registries and you get the money needed or wanted for your honeymoon.

    I hope this helps!

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