No gift at the shower?

I got gifts still 2 months after my shower. Some people gave a very generous and large wedding gift so their gift served as both. I was just glad people came even if they couldn't afford a gift

Everything Emily and 2nd Bride said. No need to send a thank you card for attendance only - it can look like you're trying to point out that she attended a shower without a gift. Or she might have purchased it online or forgot to bring it and then it would be weird to send two notes.

I'd send a thank you card and thank them for taking time out of their busy days to spend time with you. Maybe the person wasn't aware of the etiquette or they just didn't have the money for a gift but still wanted to celebrate with you.

Don't send a card. That's obnoxious.

I probably would have had the same reaction. I personally wouldn't go to any kind of shower without a gift or an explanation of some sorts, so I would also have been thrown for a loop. Not that you expect gifts, but that it's not exactly the norm. I would still send a thank you card and tell her how much you appreciated her coming and sharing in this exciting time of your life with you. Don't mention anything about a gift.

It's just odd to me that you were watching for this "certain persons" gift. I didn't keep tabs on who brought what and certainly not who there had brought me something to open and who brought nothing. I only noticed when going through the invite list and writing thank you's. But it didn't matter. Some people were overly generous and some people couldn't afford to but came to celebrate. That's just fine!

Thank you guys!

Just thank her for coming. It's still a lot of energy and effort to go. Many don't get a shower so think of the positive.

I agree with 2D and a few others. Do not send a thank you card---you only send a card for a gift, and if you send one now it will look like you were shaming her for NOT bringing a gift.

It is weird she didn't bring even a homemade card. Sorry all but if someone doesn't even bring a card, that's weird. I don't think OP is being gift grabby, she wanted to be sure she didn't SKIP someone's gift.

My bridal shower was today too. I was way more excited just to feel like a bride and to celebrate with everyone than I was about what people might get me. Although I appreciated the gifts, the love and support from friends and family means more to me than a gift ever could.

It's not about just showering with gifts, but also about showering with support and happiness for the bride. Never base something upon material things! Thank them for taking the time in their schedule to even show?

You shouldn't expect everyone to bring you a gift some people have their gifts shipped and some decide to bring their gifts to the actual wedding instead. They may have planned to present you with an expensive gift on your actual wedding day. Im a little baffled that your upset over a gift. The fact that they showed their support for me would mean more to me than any monetary gift. Especially when your not sure of their financial circumstances at this time. This post definitely rubbed me the wrong way.

Proper etiquette is to show thanks and gratitude to everyone who has taken the time to come out and support you. Its really not about the gift.

My bridesmaid/cousin told me today she has never been to a bridal shower. She asked me all sorts of questions about them, one of them being if she needed to bring a gift. Some people just don't know. I would give her a break.

Yeah I'm stuck on the part where you were specifically looking around for this "certain person's" gift. Why is that?

It's super rude to show up empty handed anywhere. Especially a shower, wedding etc. I don't think a thank you note is necessary. You already hosted them at the shower and that is the "thank you for coming."

Not a big deal. The main thing is they were there supporting you. Gifts are just icing on the cake.

I find it a very sad reflection on today's society that so many here think people are to be applauded and thanked for simply showing up and eating and drinking on the host's dime. It's not proper etiquette to send thank you notes for normal attendance - in fact, when someone attends a hosted event, proper etiquette is that the guest thanks the host, whether by card or host gift. Be grateful for those who attended, yes, but a thank you note for attendance at a shower with no gift is inappropriate.

I think it would be strange to send a thank you card for no gift. I could be wrong, but I would think that simply greeting her at the party and thanking her for being there in person would have been enough.

No gift=no thank you. If you want her to know you appreciated her coming, send a text or call her.