No Children Please ??

Adult-only reception

People should know that only those listed on the inner envelope are invited, but many do not

You can also put on your RSVP that ____ of seats are reserved in their honor. You put in that number (1, 2, or whatever the case may be).

You will have some people fight you on it, I'm sure, but you just have to explain why.

Start passing along by word of mouth that it will be an adult only reception. Put it on your website. Add a line on your invitation. Make it CLEAR that children will NOT be accommodated. Give people plenty of time to make arrangements and be aware that some folks will decline because they are unable to find a sitter or because they don't want to. And yes, be prepared to have people fight you on it, but STAND YOUR GROUND.

We only invited kids in our families, no kids of friends.

We never said adult-only at all. We just addressed the invitations to the exact people in each household who were invited and did our RSVP card as below. We kind of spread through word of mouth that we wished we could accommodate all kids, we just couldn't due to space.

We filled in the names and number of people invited on the RSVP card. We had zero issues.

I've bee reading up on this too since FH and I aren't having kids at the wedding/reception other than those IN the wedding. I've also spoken to more than one wedding planner...AND...I think I've figured it out:

Try and find a way, either via invitation, or wedding website, to inform people that it is an "Adults Only" Wedding. yes, people will try and say "I cannot come without bringing my kids" or "can I bring my kid?" but it's PERFECTLY FINE AND APPROPRIATE for you to respond with, "I am sorry, but we are having an adult only wedding, so no, kids under the age of 18 are not invited. If you cannot make it, I understand, but we truly hope you can, and you can respect this decision." It won't be easy, but it's polite and it's acceptable for you to do this. Good luck!

Our ceremony and reception are being held in the same venue. Our invite states Adult Reception to follow and we have been telling everyone no kids except those in the wedding party. And even for those in the wedding party I've suggested to FH that we have a sitter arranged and they leave around 830-900.

We are not having kids either. Even if we had just family (which is extended, it would be about 30 extra people!) Because it's more my mom's side that is the drama, she been passing it word of mouth. I know I have one cousin who is in the "well I can't come if I can't bring my kids". That's fine, and her choice. But I have to draw the line somewhere. SOme have asked if they come to ceremony and not the reception and I've had to say no to that, again, having to draw the line. And everyone knows that I absolutely adore children.

It's a tough call, but you have to stand your ground. You can easily just say, "I'm sorry, we have decided to have an adult reception."

We're putting Adult Only Please at the bottom of the invitation,