New wedding date

Hey there! I'm also in NJ. It's really hard to predict what next spring will be like. I think the state of things at that time will rest firmly on whether or not we have a vaccine. Plenty of brides have been rescheduling for next spring/summer, so you wouldn't be alone in the assumption that it may be safe. However, your guess is as good as anyone else's at this point in time. Hopefully the rapid success Rutgers has had in developing better and faster testing kits will carry over to the vaccine teams as well!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!! Sounds promising.

Hi Liz! It's so impossible to know right now, but we've seen a lot of couples rescheduling for 2021 and not a lot of 2021 couples have changed their dates. I also think it depends on your plans - especially the size of your guest list and how much travel is involved!

Here's a few other discussions from August & 2021 couples you should check out to see how they're all feeling:

August and September weddings 2020

August Bride- Riding it out...

Any nervous 2021 brides?

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Thank you so much! Those discussions helped a lot!

I could not imagine having to postpone to 2021. My nerves are already messed up. But like others have said there are too many unknowns with this virus. Good luck to you!

I grew up in Bergen County, NJ and my mom and MOH as well as some other family and friends are coming from New Jersey to attend our wedding in New Hampshire. We were May 30th as well, but have now pushed back a full year until June 2021. We considered eloping this spring but my FH really wants his parents there and when we told them about our elopement plan they didn't seem excited at all, so we are leaning away from that now. If I knew next spring would be good to go, I'd be fine waiting it out, but I honestly don't know. I feel like it's challenging to feel excited about anything.

I am definitely worried that things will still be bad next spring. I do think they will be an improvement over where we were this April, but I am not confident we will all be hugging and dancing together again a year from now and worry there will be continued social distancing and wearing masks. I have zero desire to have a wedding where we can't hug anyone and I can't see anyone's facial expressions. My fiance agreed that if things don't work out for June 2021 we can just consider something else at that point and don't have to keep pushing off the full wedding ceremony and reception that we planned. I'm trying to stay positive, but I cannot push out of my mind the fear of being disappointed again. If we end up having to have a small ceremony anyway, I'd rather do it now then wait a full year and be just as stressed and upset.

I wouldn't worry too much about being in NJ for an event next spring. I honestly think the areas that were harder hit earlier on will be better off as the virus situation progresses. Percentage wise in places like NYC and NJ more people have already been exposed and there is more herd immunity and those areas are actually taking things seriously because people know how bad it can get. In areas where the virus hasn't been as prevalent, the safety precautions tend to be more lax and people flout the rules more so I think it's more likely there will be problems in those areas as we continue on. Unless NJ is particularly bad next spring and you have a lot of out of state guests traveling into the area, I wouldn't worry too much about NJ as much as how our country and the rest of the world handle the virus in general.

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Thank you so much! I am so sorry for you and hope it all works out! Stay positive and know you're not alone in this.

Congratulations and good luck rescheduling... it sounds a little tough because of the area, but keep the faith..