Emily
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Any nervous 2021 brides?

Emily, on May 7, 2020 at 6:10 PM Posted in Community Conversations 1 26
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Hi everyone! I'm a 4/30/21 bride and getting nervous. Am I crazy? My biggest concern is having my best friend coming in from Australia for the wedding with her husband and parents and I'm not totally convinced she'll be able to get here. On top of that, I've got some older guests I'm worried about that will have to travel and whatnot (my grandfather who is wheelchair bound and living in SC). Is anyone else worried about their 2021 weddings? Am I just getting ahead of myself? I was doing fine until the year out date passed and nothing has even started to change. I'm trying to stay positive and talk myself down but with not much else happening right now to distract me, I'm having a hard time easing my mind with everything.

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Latest activity by Tori, on June 28, 2020 at 8:12 PM
  • Megan
    Beginner February 2021
    Megan ·
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    I don’t think you’re crazy! I am the weekend before you, 4/24/2021, I’m nervous there’s going to be another round of the virus next spring. However, we don’t necessarily know that’s going to happen, so we’re going on as planned. We just ordered our save the dates and have most of our major vendors booked! I don’t think we should panic for a while. But it’s still definitely something to be concerned about.


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  • Emily
    Beginner April 2022
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    I’ve been doing the same! We’ve been booking the bigger vendors and I’m waiting on dresses and things for a bit just in case and doing whatever I can online to put things in place. But I’m glad I’m not the only one worried! My fiancé keeps saying not to worry about it until we have to, but I’m going crazy. 😩
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  • Angela
    Savvy April 2022
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    I feel the same way! My wedding date is 4-10-2021 and it’s hard to not be concerned. There’s so much we don’t know and the uncertainty is painstaking. When I ask others they tell me things will be fine...but no one really knows. I’ve got all my decor ideas ready so when the stores open back up, I can hit the ground running with planning. Keep your heads up ladies! We’re in this together and this time next year we can say we made it 😊
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  • Arianna
    Dedicated November 2020
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    I am also a 4-24-21 bride and have been concerned. We have already been engaged for a year and at this point I couldn’t even imagine having to postpone it to 2022. It makes it difficult to plan when nobody knows what is going to happen by then.
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  • Kelly
    Devoted April 2021
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    Im april 2 2021 and have been freaking out as well. More so because of this damn virus im from ny and it seems like our “quarentine” is never going to end i see alot of other states are re opening many places but not so much here and i just hope that this stuff stops and everyone can make it safe and healthy and the virus is no longer an issue
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  • Kimberly
    Super March 2021
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    I’m 3/15/21 and I’m not concerned. This too shall pass and life has to go on. Things may not be the same as they are now, but I won’t live in a constant state of worry and fear. 🤷🏻‍♀️
    And yes, we may future seasons of this virus but we have a flu season every winter. People will develop an immunity to it. Of course we have to get back out and be around people to keep our immune systems healthy and working.
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  • Cassandra
    Dedicated October 2021
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    I wasn't worried until Monday this week. We had our venue back out last minute before we officially booked them and my FFIL told us to take all the Los Angeles relatives on thier side off the guest list. Both these events happening the same day just made the idea sink in that we might not be able to get married in March. I tried to be proactive and researched other venues but most of the ones that fit our budget are closed and/or not responding to my inquiries.
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  • Futuremrs.v
    Savvy January 2021
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    My wedding is 1/23/21 so about 8 1/2 months away. I am trying not to worry about it because worrying isn’t going to change anything about this chaos happening. If it comes down to it my fiancé and I may still get married and have a reception/celebration later on but who knows until closer
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  • Jessica
    Devoted March 2021
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    I'm late March 2021 and am starting to get nervous. We put a deposit on a wedding for 150 people and I'm not confident that many people will want to attend a large party.

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  • Chelsea
    Expert July 2021
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    I’m not worried because I’m 7-10-21. Im more worried about booking my vendors once everything opens.. I already had a lot of things already booked for my date so now fighting with 2020 brides will suck for the cheaper vendors. I still need photographer, officiant, flowers, dress and a lot more... I’m feeling more behind
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  • Emily
    Beginner April 2022
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    Agreed with the vendors! I’ve been saying that from the beginning and my fiancé thinks I’m jumping the gun. We’ve only got a photographer and videographer booked. Thankfully the venue provides all the food so that’s safe but I had to cancel my only dress appointment, haven’t found a DJ yet, haven’t tried to contact anyone for flowers yet, etc.
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  • Chelsea
    Expert July 2021
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    I started off at 25 months and started looking at venues at 18 months and even then I had two halls booked for my date! Crazy how things book fast! I’m also being told I have plenty of time now and I’m down to 13 months like um I don’t. My venue is just a hall so I still need to find a catering company... I’m also on a 15k budget with 230 guest! They way it’s looking with estimates we might be over to 17k but can’t be to mad
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
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    We are a May 2020 couple being forced to push our date back more than a full year and anticipate our new date will be in June or August of 2021. I too am concerned things won't be back to normal by then, but I don't think you can let that overwhelm your planning process. For us everything is already planned we are just moving dates so we don't really lose anything (other than a year of marriage) by hoping things will improve in another year. If you are actively planning I'd just be really cautious about making large deposits (our vendor deposits were pretty reasonable and roughly 20% of the total cost of our wedding but I know for some couples it's closer to 50% or more upfront) and I'd definitely discuss with all of your vendors their cancelation, refund, and postponement policies. If any vendors brush off your concerns entirely, I'd go elsewhere - its normal for them to want to appear optimistic that things will be better in a year, but if they seem completely insensitive or act as if there is no way this will be an issue in 2021 then they aren't a vendor I would feel comfortable working with.

    I absolutely do think things will be improved by next spring - overall there will likely be greater herd immunity and more effective treatments, although there may still not be a vaccine and some social distancing precautions may still be in place. I don't know if it will be completely normal - I suspect international travel might still be limited and vulnerable populations won't be out and about in the same way they were pre-pandemic - but I do think we will move forward from where we were in April of this year.

    Because we really want to be married and we are in our mid-30s already, we may still go ahead with a mini-ceremony of some kind and legally marry this year, just because I would hate to push our marriage off a full year and then still not be able to have the event we wanted. As long as we are married, it won't be hugely disastrous for us to have to push our ceremony and reception back into 2022 or even later, but I would hate to go from a 9 month engagement to a 22-24 month engagement and still be in a similar position. It has been absolute torture to endure the past couple months and I would not wish that on any bride, and I definitely don't want to be in a similar position next year.

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  • Lauren
    Savvy July 2021
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    I am getting married 07.31.2021 and I am worried. I have been reaching out to various vendors, florists, musicians, photographers trying to get quotes and no one has gotten back to me. I have my venue booked, and have reached out to them to see if we can accommodate for example, a band, and have heard nothing from them! It is very frustrating and makes me worry even more.

    Is this normal? Am I being crazy? Haaalp!

    Thinking of all brides struggling right now. Smiley heart

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  • Lauren
    Savvy July 2021
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    Feeling for you, Kari! I am also mid-thirties. So sorry you had to reschedule.

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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
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    Lauren, you may not be hearing from vendors right now because they are shut down and not able to work, or they are prioritizing rescheduling couples that have already booked and deposited and now need to postpone their dates. When we researched and booked all of our vendors initially, many were super responsive, and all have been great about responding to recent inquiries from us about our options for refunds and rescheduling. If you are familiar with the current emergency orders in the states/regions where your vendors are located, that should give you an idea of who may be unable to answer right away for legal reasons vs who is probably open and operating. For example, if non-essential businesses are shut down, certain vendors like tent rental companies are probably not operating, whereas caterers might still be able to do limited business and therefore should be checking their emails and phone messages. Even companies that are operating may be doing so on reduced staff, so it's possible they are not able to respond to requests as quickly, or the person who would normally handle certain business operations is not working for the time being. I would say if you know a business is actually open, follow up if you don't hear from them after 10 days or so.

    There will be vendors who just have bad customer service and don't respond to you. For us, if this happened, we just crossed them off our list. I had no desire to work with someone who couldn't communicate clearly and promptly with us, as your wedding day is huge and you want to be working with people who will answer questions you have in a timely manner and who you trust to be there for you and provide good service. We didn't run into this often, but I will say when we looked at caterers probably a quarter of them never responded to us, half of them responded initially but then never actually followed up with a quote or being willing to discuss options with us, and only a quarter of them actually responded in a timely manner and followed up with the information we needed to move forward with making a decision. I'm not sure if it's just the food industry or what, but we ended up booking a venue that does its own catering, primarily because we loved the venue but also largely because we didn't want to deal with the frustrations and delays we were getting from caterers.

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  • Lauren
    Savvy July 2021
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    I think you’re right, thanks Kari! I am 100% understanding and supportive of vendors accommodating currently booked couples. Such a bummer!
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  • Alla
    Beginner August 2020
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    Come on, I just postponed my wedding to June 2021, I won’t survive a longer delay 😂😂
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  • Honey
    Dedicated July 2022
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    I feel the same as most of you brides. My wedding is on 7/22/2021. I’m panicking bc of the uncertainty. We have everything booked already; we booked early this year before things became really crazy. My only dress appointment just got canceled and there’s not much to do really but just wait.


    I’ve tried googling answers 😩 and the only thing I’ve found is that there might be a vaccine coming in September. But even with a vaccine I feel that it would still be a little hectic.
    .... I guess we just have to wait and hope for the best. Maybe have a backup plan....?
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  • B
    December 2020
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    What are you doing about putting clauses into your vendor contracts about having to cancel or reschedule an upcoming wedding. Now that this is a reality I find that this is very important.

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