Needing to vent

Yes I have has the same thing happen. As long as you and your fiancé talked about it whatever anyone says doesn't matter! Maybe just keep your mom our of the specifics of your planning unless she absolutely needs to know. That's what I have been doing with people who were causing issues! As long as you like your honeymoon that's all that matters! My fiancé and I are doing part of our honeymoon on the Las Vegas strip and we can't be more excited! Enjoy your day and honestly if they keep causing issues place some boundaries. It's your day and you deserve to have a wonderful day! Hope it all works out!

I'm sorry sharing things with your mother didn't go the way you wanted. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and a supportive fiancé so focus on that and don't let her rain on your parade. Did she act the same way when your older sister got married? If so, maybe she or another family member can help give you advice on how to handle your mother. My FMIL is struggling with the idea that my FH is no longer under her control (she is verbally and emotionally abusive) and his older sister has been a huge help in giving him advice and helping him process things.

View Quoted Comment Good luck to you.

I’m going through a very similar situation right now. Initially the responses and reactions we’ve gotten from some of our family members from the time my fiancé proposed to me till now has had a hint of negativity in it. Mothers included. Which is sad cause I’m the last of my siblings to be married and I’m the baby. You think they’d be happy right? Anywho...


I’ve learned out of this experience to keep them out of my planning, I think my moms opinions matter most in my life but when it comes to my wedding, that is where I’ll draw the line, suggestions are always welcomed but not dictating..which is why I’m planning my own things.
I say, do whatever makes you and your fiancé happy because that is all that should matter and I’ve learned the true reason to “it’s your wedding!”. If y’all wanna go to Disneyland, go to Disneyland!! That sounds awesome and something we’re gonna do on our honeymoon too! Nothing like going to Disneyland married and that’s such a great memory!!
Be strong girl! The opinions will hurt, but if you look past that and plan what you guys want, you won’t look back later in life and wonder how it’d be if you did it the way you truly wanted it. Best of luck! 🤍

Wow this sounds extreme. Does your mom not like your fiancé? Try to ignore her and do what makes you and your fiancé happy. It’s your lives together. When my mom is critical, I just smile and do whatever I want. I just see her as a “ cranky lady”

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry that happened to you. Even though my mom is toxic, I don’t think she will act up at the bridal shower or wedding. When she is around people she does not know, she does not speak. She sits really quitely and does not socialize.

View Quoted Comment After my mom went on and on about how my fiancé and my plans for our honeymoon is not a honeymoon trip just a weekend getaway. I asked my mom what is the point of a honeymoon anyways. She told me to spend alone time with your husband on a vacation.

View Quoted Comment Honestly that is what I have to start doing. Only telling her what she needs to know. I tried involving her, it is not working out. I think part of it is, she was so involved in my sisters wedding. Except her and my sister thought alike in wedding details my mom and I don’t.

View Quoted Comment I’m honestly hoping Disneyland is opened to non California residents by that point in time.

View Quoted Comment Definitely enjoy your self when you are here in Vegas. What things have you and your fiancé planned to do while on the strip? I’m just curious.

View Quoted Comment My mom was really involved in helping my sister plan her wedding. My mom is trying to be involved in helping me with my wedding planning, except we don’t have the same vision for it and that is causing issues. My fiancé’s mom is willing to help with wedding planning if we ask her to. She is not like my mom wanting to control everything. Then again I think her priority is on her daughter, my fiancé’s twin sister who is pregnant with her first child and the first grandchild for their family. Either way my fiancé’s mom is relaxed when it is coming to my fiancé and I wedding planning.

View Quoted Comment Thank you and I’m glad I’m not the only one who settled on Disneyland for their honeymoon 😊

View Quoted Comment My mom does not like my fiancé’s family. She thinks they are controlling him. She believes he only wants to do everything his twin sister does. Why? They have the same interests for the most part, so yes things they do will be similar. Is that really a bad thing? He is happy, I’m happy, my mom is not happy.

View Quoted Comment Exactly! A honeymoon is just one (of many) vacations that you and your husband will take together. So a California trip is perfectly fine. For some reason people have created the idea that a honeymoon has to mean an exotic getaway, usually to a foreign country. But it’s just a vacation after getting married.

View Quoted Comment That is not uncommon to not see eye to eye! Just do what you want, nothing more, nothing less!

View Quoted Comment Exactly and honestly she never went to any exotic foreign lands for any of her honeymoons.

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Ahh! I'm so sorry she's nagging you! Yes, just be careful using certain words I guess. I used to know someone like that at my previous job, and now I just say yes or no. I never went into explaining stuff because she would manipulate what I would say.
If she nags you just say you already have it handled and do not give her any details. Again she will only nit pick about it and only have something negative to say.

My mom was negative in the beginning and middle of wedding planning and it hurt. I just brushed it off. It is our day after all so we just kinda took it with a grain of salt. Towards the end as rhe wedding got a couple months out, she got excited about it. It was great to see and we had a great day. Try not to let other's words or opinions get you down. It's your life and you can live it how you want

View Quoted Comment She started telling me today that I should change the theme of my wedding from a Beauty and the Beast themed wedding to a non themed wedding. She then got mad that each of my bridesmaids are going to have a different neckline on their dress. So she thinks it is going to look horrible.

View Quoted Comment Hilarious!!