Need to vent about my mom

I'm waiting for my future BIL's wife who is always bragging about her life and tries to "one up" everyone during birthdays, weddings, anniversaries etc. My sis and bridesmaids have been warned about her to keep this girl away from me with her negativity. My sis and best friend have no problem telling her off 😅

My mother's family is like that. My mother's mom ( who I'm not close with at all) has been asking my mom to see a photo of my dress for the pass two weeks, just so she compare it to the other weddings to see who's is better. I think that is just rude. Can't you just be happy for people! I hope you don't let your mom get to you! You deserve happiness and I'm sure your shower was just as beautiful!

Not necessarily comparing something to someone else's, but I have a mom who only ever talks about her self or makes whatever your talking about about her. It's incredibly annoying, especially when she never actually pays attention to anything I or anyone else say if it's not that interesting to her 🙄 She also always talks about how she's married now and I need to get the ball rolling, even though she literally only married him for insurance benefits (granted he's been in love with her since I was 3- I'm 26). They don't even sleep in the same room, let alone hug and she moved her livingroom around so he couldn't see her from the kitchen. But you know she had to get a big old fancy wedding ring set to show off to all her friends and neighbors. I have been quite enjoying keeping my elopement from her. Can you tell we have a strained relationship?

I do have one person (on FH's side, though) who seems to like to compare details of our wedding to hers. But she doesn't do it in an overbearing manner. What she has been doing is pestering me for details and updates on how my planning is coming along, and she's been really annoying with that. Almost every day or at least every other day. And she's starting to ask annoying, prying questions that I'm getting sick and tired of. She's literally the one one doing this. So I've limited contact, and decided to give her very vague details.

I havent gotten any comparisons (because people know I don't care if someone thinks mine is better or worse than "so and sos") but the inappropriate comments. I had the same problem with my baby shower though, so I just avoid those people now. 🤷‍♀️

My grandmother is like that. My dads the baby of 5, so I have a LOT of cousins. Of course we are all in our 20's-30's so we are all doing life things...marriage/babies/house buying/etc. She is always talking about everyone, bragging that so-and-so did this and so-and-so are doing that. My cousin and I got married 3 months apart and my grandmother was CONSTANTLY comparing everything we did and had even though our weddings were very different and in different states.

Fact of the matter is, you can't keep people's opinions in their mouths. Be a duck and let it roll off your back.