Omg you guysss I usually share everythinggg with my FH. I’m super excited for our wedding, but man is it hard keeping my dress a surprise.
Yesterday I got an email saying my veil arrived which I told him about lmao. I’ve always been against having a veil but fell in love when I put it on. Feel like I need to avoid him until next September before my big mouth tells him about my dress 🤣
Lol I spilled all the beans after our minimony. Showed him my various rejects, the dress I almost wore, pretty much all of it. But he agreed with me that my dress was amazing and perfect. It was really hard to keep the secret, but if you sit on your hands enough you'll get there!
Furure Mrs. ·
Keeping it a secret is hard! I was doing so well keeping my dress a total secret until my mom started talking about how she was worried about my train and long veil in the dirt and grass when she was visiting, and my MIL mentioned how much she loved the lace on my dress on another occasion. I just tried as much as possible not to talk about my dress to anyone unless my husband wasn't in the house.
The other alternative some of us choose is to put on the dress etc when we buy it , or pick it up. And let FI share the excitement of anticipating what you will look like over a long while. Having that view of you every time he thinks about it. As in many things, anticipation can be half the fun, a secret you share. I have never understood why so many deprive their FI of that long period of knowing how you will look in their mind from that one look, but chacun à son goût.
It IS hard. I knew my husband didn't want to see the dress at all prior to our wedding day, so that was helpful because we BOTH wanted it to be a surprise. I found it easier to have a few people to share the dress with (some co-workers) and then to just say "I think you are going to love it, I can't wait for you to see it" every now and then. The hardest when when he got his suit and tried it on because I so badly wanted to be like "here's my dress!" I also love getting dressed up in front of him and his reaction, and I really so badly wanted to show it to him sometimes.
We are doing a 25th silver wedding, and I am sure DH is not expecting a full wedding gown and veil and tiara on a destination beach wedding.
I am keeping a secret. I put everything in a box and sealed it with my signature. If he opens it, I would know. In my culture seeing the wedding items before the day is very bad, and I want to surprise him so badly.
I ended up showing my FH a photo of my dress 3 hours after I bought it 😂 The thing is though, we are honestly best friends and have never kept a single thing from each other, so it was supper weird to me to not share that with him when it was such an exciting moment in my life. I figured that it’s not like he’s seeing me all dressed up with makeup and hair done, and he was equally as excited to see photos of what I picked. But I completely understand how hard it is to keep it a secret!
I showed my fiance a pic of a hideous dress and told him that's my dress, the look on his face while he was absolutely silent trying to figure out what to say to me was the funniest thing ever lol I was going to keep messing with him and let him believe it for awhile but I couldn't because I felt so bad as I could literally see the look on his face nervous trying to decide whether to tell me the dress was absolutely ugly or if he should lie to me.. he was so relieved when I told him I was joking lol