Need some advice and encouraging words :(

I know it’s not convenient to postpone, but it really is so extremely selfish to continue hosting events at this point. You’re putting the health of your friends and family, and ultimately the rest of the country, on the back burner for a party.

Have you spoken to the venue? I thought CT (and most of the northeast) is starting to go into more of a lockdown situation. I’d be very surprised if the venue and vendors could continue operating. Seems like the best option is to postpone and work with everyone to find a new date in an effort to keep you, friends, family and the wider community safe and healthy!

I’m not sure what the current situation in Connecticut is but I would wait it out a little bit and see what happens. Many states are doing mandatory stay at home orders. I’d look into that as well.


Have you asked your venue about changing the date rather than canceling. They should hopefully work with you.
Especially if you are spending/have spent 100k on it I would try to work it out. This goes without saying, but That’s A LOT of lot money to be out if you just cancel it or for 20 people attend.
Good luck with your decision. Your wedding will be beautiful regardless of how you proceed.

I honeslty eould contiune planning and see what happens in April for gou to make that decision. Due to this crisis there will be alot of ppl not attending amd that's okm you already put so much money out there and I agree with your husband

I know postponing isn’t ideal but that might be best. With all the money you have poured into this, would it really be worth it if a small amount of people show up? Plus think about the health risks.


Definitely check with the venue. A lot of venues are allowing you to postpone and select another date at no additional cost.

You need to start talking with your venue. At this point, the northeast is starting to see the kind of exponential growth that Italy is only *just* starting to get under control, so things could be bad for a while.

I know it's awful, but for your OWN safety, as well as that of guests, you might need to look at postponing.

You may not have a choice. Your venue may force you to cancel and reschedule your reception. I would talk to them about what their long term plan is as of now.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this Florida Girl! It's so upsetting! Right now I feel like it's really difficult to make any kind of definite plans for the next couple of months, given how quickly local situations and guidelines seem to be changing.

We've gathered some tips and resources you can check out here: COVID-19 Wedding Support Central. You can also connect with other brides with May event dates facing the same decisions here:

May 16 brides---what Next Due to Coronavirus?

May brides and your plan of action?

Connecticut's Stay At Home order went into effect a few hours ago. Also, as other people said, it's really not safe to be having any kind of event right now, and May is kind of soon. You should definitely at least start asking your vendors what is involved in postponing your wedding.