Skip to main content

Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Michelle
Dedicated March 2021

Need help

Michelle, on February 11, 2020 at 5:40 PM Posted in Planning 0 22
I know to plan a wedding is expensive especially if u wanted something small . So my fiance is a bit upset since he the one paying for everything saying why do we have to hire this person to that person .I say well we do need a dj ,photographer and we dont have to get the photo booth if u dont want it . Now I feel like I had pressure him to do the wedding which he says I didnt really that he wanted a wedding but it getting to him that everything overpriced. I try looking for venues for a bit less and to me everything over 2000 here in PR esp. Renting merchandise for the wedding . I dont know what to do . He definitely want simple but elegant wedding .

22 Comments

Latest activity by Michelle, on February 12, 2020 at 9:34 AM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I think some of the things can be compromised for instance a photobooth is fun but it definitely isn't a necessity.
    • Reply
  • N
    VIP September 2020
    Neeva ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I think we all go through this where we don't realize until we start planning how expensive a wedding really is and if your fiance isn't planning with you- he likely doesn't understand these costs. I would have him look at all the quotes you have gotten and sit down to set a budget.

    Best ways to cut costs are to cut the guest list and do less expensive catering/decor

    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    True , just for wedding coordinators they run about 2000 to 4000 dollars , renting the things I need are about 5000 . That what getting to him that we need those two and nothing . I feel like buying the things I need myself which will only cost us 1000 instead of 5000 just to rent the merchandise. To me I only pay that amount if we were to keep it but nothing even that .
    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    The catering the hotel is doing it we really dont have to worry about that it mostly the decor ,dj,photographer and wedding coordinator and cake .
    • Reply
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    I can relate because my FH would have much rather the courthouse and does not see the value of the wedding. I would suggest that it may not be fair to him he pay for everything. I would say no to the wedding coordinator. Do you need to have a big wedding and reception that involves a DJ? Also, if you really want something then maybe you can foot that bill. For example, he did not see the point in paying so much for photography but I want beautiful pics and working with professionals so I decided to take care of that. Although it is great he doing this for you having the wedding but if he does not really want that maybe you two should come up with some kind of happy medium because him having that stand point is going to frustrate you while planning.

    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    He says city hall is not really a wedding for him and he done that before . He wanted something different rather than just go to city hall and than dinner. We already book the hotel which was about 11000 . He didnt complain about that . He really getting work up about everything else. The hotel is providing us the food, flower arrangements and mister something like that lol. The white tablecloths and napkins chairs and table. And I told him I do the centerpieces which it much cheaper than buying them . Is the other stuff that we need . We both agree inviting 40 ppl which it might be less because everyone else is coming from New York .
    • Reply
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Hmmmm it is good he wanted the bigger wedding but yeah all those pieces come from it. I would just maybe splurge on photography and limit everything else. Maybe go cheaper on a DJ. Which part of PR are you getting married? Does the hotel provide a coordinator?

    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    San Juan ,and no they dont. The coordinators I spoke to most of them offer full service I just need one day .
    • Reply
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Ooooh that sucks. Yeah I would not higher a planner to do what I can do but I can see a day of. Hopefully there is one out there. What other things are needed?

    • Reply
  • Rebelle Fleur
    Master July 2021
    Rebelle Fleur ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Try the thumbtack app. It has a lot if beginner dj photographer etc that will give you a great price.
    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    I already hire the photographer for five hours which was about 1200 that was pricey. Need everything else beside my bouquet that 200 from mj bouquets .
    • Reply
  • Will & Tiara
    Super September 2019
    Will & Tiara ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Doesn't the hotel have an on-site coordinator for your day? They should! Every banquet hall and hotel has some main person day to handle everything for your wedding. The staff also should be able to set up your candles, and table runners or chair sashes for you along with the table cloths that are provided to you by the hotel. Your florist will place the flowers on the table. If you want special decor, then you need to hire a person for that, but not necessarily a coordinator.

    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    They told us to hire a coordinator for the event . That y I was looking . Oh ok dont know much here since we moved here not to long ago dont know much and who to hire as a decor.
    • Reply
  • Will & Tiara
    Super September 2019
    Will & Tiara ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Where are you from? Where is the wedding taking place? I hired a great photographer and decorator for my wedding in Miami. They were great! Maybe you could use them. email me at moralesfontaine at g mail and I can send you my vendors. Best and love, Tiara

    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    We move from Staten island to PR . The wedding in san juan ,PR . So yeah starting new is hard .
    • Reply
  • Will & Tiara
    Super September 2019
    Will & Tiara ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment

    Send me your email and i will get you quotes. it may be cheaper to fly two people to PR than hiring out there. they will only need to be there two nights/days. Email me your phone. I can get a cheaper photographer if the wedding ceremony and party is in the same venue. morales fontaine at g mail dot com


    • Reply
  • Lynette
    Savvy August 2021
    Lynette ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    I totally agree- it becomes very expensive. We’re forgoing a photo booth from a company. We’re setting up a photo area with an instacamera when guests can take photos and have fun. I designed a love prop and will a backdrop. By including my FH on the details he’s starting to see the cost of everything. We’re saving by using some decorations (lanterns, vases, etc.) from an older friend’s daughter’s wedding. I will just change the color and do some crafting. Also, we’re only using a daily of coordinator to save money. Just look everywhere and cut when you can. Sharing that news of cutting back in some areas will make your fiancé a little happier.
    • Reply
  • C
    Beginner December 2021
    Claudia ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    Try looking for vendors on the west side of the island it is much cheaper than the San Juan area!
    • Reply
  • Will & Tiara
    Super September 2019
    Will & Tiara ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content

    My sister did a Miami wedding and there is much more than NYC! She flew in wedding coordinator/decorator and photographer. The coordinator was able to get decor at close to 50% off retail including favors, vases, etc. Is it 40 guests or more?

    • Reply
  • Michelle
    Dedicated March 2021
    Michelle ·
    • Flag
    • Hide content
    View Quoted Comment
    40 ppl that about it ,it could be less since I know some ppl cant afford flying back and forth.
    • Reply

You voted for . Add a comment 👇

×

Related articles

WeddingWire celebrates love ...and so does everyone on our site! Learn more

Groups

WeddingWire article topics