Need help with invitation problem!

If reprinting isn't an option, include an insert. Not sure how you would go about wording that.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your opinion!

You said that you will now be allowing alcohol, but you will not be serving it. Does this mean you will not be providing alcohol, but guests can bring their own if they wish?

I’d print a small card about business card size saying alcohol available for a fee or limited alcohol available.

View Quoted Comment Yes, that is correct. We will not be providing it ourselves but we will allow it if some guests choose to bring it themselves. I know not the standard "wedding reception". The venue we have selected doesn't offer alcohol so we would have to buy it and pay someone to serve it and that is to expensive for our budget.

View Quoted Comment I thought about doing something very similar to this. However, we will not be providing alcohol. So it would be a BYOB sort of thing.

View Quoted Comment Gotcha! Just wanted to make sure I understood that correctly. Are you having a wedding website? That is definitely information you can put on the website. You could also post something on your social media, as well as spread the info word-of-mouth. Those would all be free options. Another free option would be to use a black marker and cross out that line on the invitation. I know it’s not ideal to cross something out on an invite, but that would certainly be the 100% way of ensuring people are not confused and think it is a dry reception. Plus, let’s be honest, we as the brides are usually the only ones that truly care about the invitations lol Guests look at them for 10 seconds, and they end up in the garbage. If you would like to incur additional charges, you could have detail cards printed to include with the invites. I will say though, my detail cards cost nearly as much as my invites. So I would definitely suggest checking the prices on them – it may be just as cost effective to reprint the invites.

View Quoted Comment I sincerely appreciate your advice. I ordered a stock of blank business cards w/ envelopes that I am expecting anyday now. I have the capabilities of printing them myself at home and including them with the invitations. I just wasn't sure if it would be a suitable way of telling our guests we've changed our minds about the alcohol free part, but my FH told me I am over-thinking things and it would be just fine. Our invites are a real pretty light blue color so I'm not sure if drawing a line thur that part would look right! 😬 A little insight why I'm in this position is because both of our families have recovering alcoholics as well as neither myself nor FH drink alcohol we decided it was a good choice in the beginning. However, due to personal reasons these certain family members will not be attending our reception so we decided that it's okay if other guests want to have alcohol. Again I thank you for the help!

I just wouldn’t. A dry wedding is more acceptable than expecting guests to provide alcohol for your reception.

View Quoted Comment It's not really expecting guest to provide it for the entire reception lol just if they want some themselves. We are providing other drinks for our guests. A example: My older brother drinks heavily, he is going to bring his own in a cup, flask or hell probably the bottle lol I just don't want guests thinking they can't have it at all. (My older brother wasn't originally invited for the reason stated but has now been added to the guest list, lol). Again we had personal reasons as to why it was going to be a dry reception. But thank you for opinion.

We are having a dry reception, we don't drink and felt no need to explain, either way.


We are having a small wedding and the handful of people that I know would want to drink, I mentioned it to them personally.
I think guests will be just fine if you leave the invitation as is. They can go get a drink afterwards. I personally, wouldn't change it. Just my opinion.
Congratulations!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for the Congratulations!😁 I have also thought about just leaving it the way it is as well. I'm in limbo I suppose. I seriously appreciate your opinion very much!

View Quoted Comment ❤ Try not to worry! It will be fine good luck with your decision.

View Quoted Comment Ps I love your name! So refreshing to see

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I'm definitely one in a million with the way my parents spelled it, that's for sure!! My FH has been telling me the same thing for over a month now. It'll all be okay!😬😬😁

View Quoted Comment I have to agree with this. Putting an insert in contradicting yourself is odd in itself, but then saying BYOB goes against wedding ediquette all together. I’d stick with the dry wedding.

You should also check with your venue. A lot of places won't allow you to bring your own alcohol unless you hire someone licensed to serve it. It's a liability for the venue.

View Quoted Comment We were asked when we rented the venue if alcohol was going to be served. We said No but it is allowed in the venue. We just need to change it on the contract with the venue.

View Quoted Comment I understand that, but you also need to let them know that there won't be a licensed bartender.

As in, dispensing alcohol in a controlled, responsible way vs your guests brining in whatever they want, drinking however much they want, and either getting injured or damaging the venue. You may have to add wedding insurance or something else. That's my point.