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Nicole
Devoted April 2021

Need advice with work

Nicole, on January 22, 2020 at 8:12 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13

Ladies, I really need some advice. I'm a manager at a dealership, I've been there 5 years and I've always worked my butt off. For the past 3 years, I've given up my summers and missed very important events because I pull 65+ hour weeks. I know it's not the most ever but it's still a lot. There is sort of a change/promotion for me in the next 2 weeks that could set my little family up financially for a long time. My FH and I are getting married in April and he had no issues getting 2 weeks off because he does the same thing as a diesel tech at another dealership. I had to fight for mine. Literally fight for it. I finally got it approved after the new year when I had put it in 5 months ahead of time! Yay! Well the change that is coming is going to ask my to shorten my honeymoon/vacation or move it to a different date. Which is frustrating because of how much I've already invested into the company.


Here is the kicker.... our honeymoon was gifted to us. Hotel, flights, some activities. Its paid for already. As I talk to my FH about it, he is super mad. And he says i shouldn't go back at all because of how over worked I've been. I am not looking for a pity party, just some advice at what you would do in this situation and how to bring it up to the person who paid for the trip. Thanks in advance for the advice!


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Latest activity by Lisa, on January 28, 2020 at 3:10 PM
  • Kristen
    Master November 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Try and talk to your boss and if he's very stubborn about it then I suggest you look for a new job and let them know these dates ahead of time.
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    beee ·
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    It sounds like you are an asset to the company and it would be a huge loss for them if you were to leave. Stand you ground and tell that you are taking the time off.
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    Devoted September 2019
    Meaghan ·
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    I agree with this. For the most part, changing vacation plans falls into reasonable expectations for an employer if the situation warrants. But weddings and honeymoons which have been approved are different. Frankly, if they don't understand that than I would start looking elsewhere.
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    Dedicated November 2020
    Dezaree ·
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    I agree with everyone. Stand your ground. If they do not understand, I would look at transfering to a different dealership! Get a new job! You should be appreciated for all the hard work you put in!
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  • Nicole
    Devoted April 2021
    Nicole ·
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    Thanks ladies!! I appreciate it!!
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  • Jmz
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    Jmz ·
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    Stand your ground! As PP mentioned, you definitely sound like an asset, they can't afford to lose you. Try watching some "negotiation" how-to videos. It might be helpful.
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    Theresa ·
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    I would explain it to the person who paid for the trip the same as you did here, sorry, but I got a promotion to a better paying position and now no longer have the time off that I did in my last position.

    If you plan to stand your ground, great! But, I'd spruce up my resume and start the job hunt now in case things don't go your way. No matter how valuable you are to the company, supervisors don't always see it that way. They think anyone can do your job, whether they can or not. It's frustrating!

    Good luck to you, and I hope things work out!

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  • Suzie
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    You should talk to the person in charge of the promotion and say a term for you applying, and then hopefully accepting, is that you get that time off. Most reputable places understand that booked vacations, let alone a honeymoon, are set in stone, and will work with you around that. Remember that you are an asset as well, and they need you just as much as you need them. This is a totally reasonable request. Now I obv don’t know your situation, but I would never drop my honeymoon, let alone a free one. I work at a college, where NO ONE takes time off during the school year, but I am taking two weeks in October for our wedding and honeymoon. So if my boss can do it, yours needs to step it up lol.

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  • Nicole
    Devoted April 2021
    Nicole ·
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    Thank you ladies for all the wonderful advice!

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  • Mandi
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    Mandi ·
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    I dont think you need to approach the person who paid for it. I think you need go fight it out with work. I worked retail in high school and they scheduled me to work black friday, even though they had approved my time off as I was going with my dance team to be in the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade. I went to talk to my manager about it, and he hemmed and hawed about it. I stood up, I thanked him for his time and the opportunity, but that my last day would be the day I was scheduled before that Friday, and wished him luck... I got that day off and continued to work for that company for another 7 years.
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  • Carrie
    Devoted October 2020
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    I agree with ur FH don't go back. I understand that it can help you in the long run financially, however a company that is going to make you change you wedding around for them is BS.Smiley angry You have the right for time off. I wish you luck and hope everything works for the BEST.

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  • Katelyn
    Devoted October 2020
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    I agree with the other ladies! I would go fight it out with work. They cannot expect you to move your honeymoon around for them. And if they don't support you and want you to have work/life balance, is that a company you really want to stay with? Stand your ground, and if they don't like it, I would leave. Good luck!

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  • Lisa
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    Lisa ·
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    I would first talk to your boss and check your employee handbook/HR Department for policies on vacation time and mandatory rescheduling of previously approved vacation. I would also check state laws and if they regulate this, too. I would hope that your boss understands that you are getting married and going on your honeymoon!!

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