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Necessary or Not: Save the Dates?

Kelly, on February 19, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Planning 0 138
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Are you planning to send save the dates to your guests to get on their calendars early? Or are you skipping them and just sending invitations?


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  • Swtnss238
    VIP May 2019
    Swtnss238 ·
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    Necessary. We sent them out 10 months before our wedding.
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  • Mrs. H
    Rockstar September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    I think this depends on a myriad of factors… for one, is your venue considered a "destination" wedding for the majority of your guests? Ours is. How far out is your wedding? We started at 580+ days, and EVERYONE was asking when the wedding was, so we felt they were important to send out.

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    We sent them, because we have a lot of out of town guests. I think they are a necessity for destination weddings and people that plan to invite a lot of out of town guests. If the majority of he guest list is local, then by all means this can be skipped!

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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Not at all. I hate them. Just send me the invite early.

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  • Angerra
    VIP August 2019
    Angerra ·
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    It was necessary for us only because we have a good amount of out of town guests and wanted to be able to give them a heads up in advance. We sent ours in October for our August wedding and everyone appreciated the notice.
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  • M
    Super November 2019
    Melissa ·
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    I dont think save the dates are necessary.
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    Unnecessary for my situation. I’m having a microwedding, only up to 20 guests. They all already know where it will be. I will only be sending out invitations 8 weeks in advance.
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  • Caytlyn
    Champion November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    They're not always a necessity, but we're getting married the weekend before Thanksgiving, so we are sending them.

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    I totally agree! I think they are more necessary when it comes to having a destination wedding!

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    It sounds like it's going to be awesome, Tara! Definitely agree that they aren't necessary for your situation, the invites are enough!

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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    Thanks Kelly! Could you possibly do a post where you and the WW admins share your wedding stories?
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    *Kelly, Could you possibly do a post where you and the WW community associates share your wedding stories?
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  • Martika
    Expert September 2019
    Martika ·
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    They were necessary for us. We are having a Friday wedding, so a many people will have to take the day off work. We wanted everyone to have enough time in advance to take the date off if they needed too.

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  • Nemo
    VIP August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    Not necessary. We thought they were a waste of money. All of our most important people knew the date anyway.

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  • Alyssa
    Super July 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    I think this depends on if your guests are local. We sent save the dates because all of our guests are out of town so they need to book travel. Had all our guests been local, we probably wouldn't have sent them.
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  • Mrs.
    Super May 2019
    Mrs. ·
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    For my family it was unnecessary. My mom spread the word to my aunts and uncles, who spread the word to my cousins. Same on FH's side, but FH's family is more traditional and formal than mine is, so I went ahead and designed one online and sent them out via email. I only sent it to my cousins and friends, while we sent them to everyone on his side of the family and friends. They're cute and fun, but I personally wouldn't spend money to physically send them out!

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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    I think they are necessary for destination weddings, but if most people are local then I don't think they are that necessary.
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  • Brittany
    Super October 2019
    Brittany ·
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    I don't think they are absolutely necessary...but we are getting married on a holiday weekend (Columbus Day). I know a lot of people make plans for long weekends. Also, right before we sent out our save the dates many family members reached out to us to ask when we were sending them! I think they've become something that people just expect now.

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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·
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    This definitely depends on the situation. I don't think they're absolutely necessary, but they are helpful in our ever-increasingly busy lives to be able to plan ahead!

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  • Johanna
    Dedicated December 2018
    Johanna ·
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    Not needed, but nice. Especially for potential busy times of year, if there is any travel involved, etc.
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