Nikki
VIP June 2016

My vows sound like an essay

Nikki, on August 14, 2015 at 4:15 PM Posted in Planning 0 18
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Fh really wants us to write our own vows so I agreed to it since it's obviously important to him. I know I have a lot of time before my wedding but the other day I was feeling inspired after reading some "how to" articles so wrote a draft... it reads like an essay! I'm not a creative writer and basically the only writing I've done is history papers... any tips for making vows more "flowery", for lack of a better word?

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Latest activity by Samantha, on March 1, 2021 at 6:11 PM
  • Mphgirl23
    VIP September 2020
    Mphgirl23 ·
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    I would say, have a few glasses of wine and then speak your feelings into a tape recorder---I think if you speak off the top of your head it will flow more naturally and then you can eventually transcribe onto paper... just my thoughts.. wine makes everything better

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  • Nikki
    VIP June 2016
    Nikki ·
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    I like any and all ideas that involve wine

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  • jomabago
    Super September 2017
    jomabago ·
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    MPH has some good advice!

    But also, Celia mentioned something about three or four things you love about them and three or four promises to them. I think that's simple and cute.

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  • Chantel
    Master July 2016
    Chantel ·
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    I was laying in bed one night and I was thinking about this. I came up with awesome vows in my head and now I really wish I would have wrote them down!

    Maybe take time, go for a walk and think about your FH, then go back and read them and maybe you'll have a different, and more emotional perspective that you can use to tweak what you wrote.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Yep. Three things you love, and three things you'll promise. Don't forget that by the time you say your vows, everyone at your wedding is thinking 'glass of wine"" Keep it very short, very sweet; you don't have to say EVERYTHING you have EVER wanted to say to your fiance right then. And no one, no matter how much they adore you, wants to listen to it.

    My pinterest page (you've heard of that site, right, lol) has a "vow and reading" board and there is a mad lib style vow generator on there that can bridge the gap between cookie cutter and "OMG WILL THEY EVER STOP TALKING".

    Keep in mind too; this is a very emotional part of a very emotional day. You should not feel pressured to make these words the most mesmerizing, galvanizing things you'll ever say to each other. Which is why many couples choose to say words that have been said for centuries.

    http://pinterest.com/celiamilton

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  • Ally
    Master October 2016
    Ally ·
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    You can wing it too Smiley winking I'm almost tempted to do that myself.

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  • beachbride
    Devoted September 2015
    beachbride ·
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    I needed this post today. I have to write mine soon. Good advice @celia

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  • Nikki
    VIP June 2016
    Nikki ·
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    Haha I definitely don't want people to be willing me to speed up/finish in their heads so short and sweet is good advice. I don't think I could wing it as I'm really bad at speaking in front of people :/

    I will check out that post Celia!

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  • Amanda Blue
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    Try to find a ghostwriter. You can have someone rewrite it for you for a pretty fair price. Just google article writer and you'll find a bunch of websites that offer this service!

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  • Rebecca
    VIP June 2015
    Rebecca ·
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    @celia - great advice...

    One more idea: find a poem that you love, and take a stanza or two from it that reflects your feelings, or, take a traditional religious verse and change it to first-person voice.

    E.g., instead of 1 Corinthians "Love is Patient, Love is kind", you can speak it as "I promise to be patient, and to be kind"... And my favorite poem that we used as one of our readings is Roy Croft's "I Love You".

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  • Ashley771
    Super October 2016
    Ashley771 ·
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    Celia, that's such a cute but quick idea. I'm now Pinterest stalking you Smiley smile

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  • Chris @ Indy Wedding Officiants
    Chris @ Indy Wedding Officiants ·
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    Try this article on how to write meaningful vows from a colleague of mine, Josh Withers; http://marriedbyjosh.com/writing-your-own-vows-and-making-them-meaningful/

    If you are still feeling stuck, blocked.. or maybe you simply are not the "creative writer"-type, I would also encourage you to ask your Officiant if they can point you in the right direction!

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  • Futuremrsw
    Super October 2015
    Futuremrsw ·
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    Celia- clutch as always.

    I started following your pinterest page months ago. So much good stuff!

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  • Future Mrs. Shermister
    VIP October 2015
    Future Mrs. Shermister ·
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    Thanks good advice Smiley smile

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Thank you!

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  • Adelaide
    Just Said Yes July 2022
    Adelaide ·
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    I think my wow would be probably the same. I wrote a few pages already, that can be consider as essay Smiley smile

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  • Amanda
    VIP December 2020
    Amanda ·
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    Pinterest has some amazing vow idea's honestly. I know they are not original but they might help you build upon something. I will be using a combination of Pinterest vows' and my own thoughts/words for our vows in December.

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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    I was thinking of that but am afraid I will burst into tears and say something lime “I love your taste in tv shows” so I will probably memorize some bullet points.
    My FH talks to groups for a living so he will blow me out of the water LOL
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