my sister's (MOH) due date is my wedding date

I would just move my wedding date up a month. I know it will be more work for you, but unless she delivers more than a month early, your parents should be able to be there.

I would just plan the wedding the way it is. The odds of it being the exact day are slim.

She's not even pregnant yet. I wouldn't worry about it. Like others have said, babies rarely come on their due dates anyways. I think you're getting upset over something that may not even happen. Just wait and see what happens before you make any decisions!

First off, this is a HUGE what if and OP is stressing over nothing at this point.

That being said, it's incredibly insensitive for people to say that sister could just push back her IUI date. We don't know how long she's been trying or how many failed attempts she's had at this, we don't know what her doctor (you know, they guy who went to med school for this) told her about her chances of conceiving if she waits, and we all don't know (clearly) how much more goes into IUI/IVF besides putting semen together with an egg and implanting it into a woman's uterus.

This is an expensive process. Couples save for years to be able to undergo this process and sister's pregnancy would be a huge deal to her and her parents. Will it suck for OP to have to face the idea of not having her parents and sister at her wedding? Of course. But OP, you have to be understanding if things don't work out to where everyone can attend your wedding. Life isn't fair and it just so happens that life could deal you a sucky hand near your wedding. If that does happen and you end up not being able to change your date, you could live-stream the ceremony so your family can see it.

Hi @Spazzy, we didn't flag you down, the flags came in from members of the community. It's back up now.

I don't want to speak for the OP but I'm sensing possibly she was more upset about her parents willing to totally ditch her wedding if her sister gives birth that day when it could be worked out. More so than her sis being due that day. Am I warm OP?

Is there a pattern of your sisters stuff taking precedence? Don't want to read too much into it but that crossed my mind.

It was always about my sis with my parents so perhaps I'm overly sensitive so forgive me if I'm way off.

Chances are, your sister will end up delivering a little early. My sister's due date was originally a week before my wedding, but she ended up delivering a couple weeks early.

Spazzy took the words out of my mouth. Also, if I were giving birth, I would totally want my mom there.

You can't control a baby but you can control a wedding. Plus she's not even pregnant yet so hold your horses and wait and see what happens.

This is so hard because typically treatments happen monthly, so even if you were to push the wedding back a month and this round doesn't work, the next one might.

The next thing I am thinking is that this increases the chance for multiples which may definitely result in early labor

Your sister is not being selfish but I can understand your concerns. I wouldn't make any drastic moves quite yet unless you are willing to move your wedding up a few months. However, there are too many what ifs to make any sudden decisions.

I am also going to assume that since your sister is doing fertility treatments, this has been a difficult road for her unless there are other factors that haven't been explained. If this is the case, it makes sense why your mother might want to be there.

I am sorry OP.

I was just stressed about changing everything. I got a list of other dates from the venue. So I feel a lot better now. I NEVER SAID MY SISTER IS SELFISH and I don't think she is. It's just sucky that they both are going to be around the same time and my mom and step dad would be put in the position to choose. Ideally I would love to be the birth too I don't even know if that would be possible with my job. Honestly I didn't know the due dates are so loose. I am just the type of person to stress and over plan. That's how I function. But now that I have some alternates I'm ok. I just don't like not knowing

Mary R I might have some insecurities about the whole thing and my family not viewing it as a real wedding coming out. But that's a whole nother topic ??

Question though... And I'm sorry if this was already asked and answered but.. Why cant she get inseminated next month? Like, thats pretty selfish on her part to knowingly have her baby due date that close to your wedding. Just imo.

Don't stress. Being an auntie is going to be so exciting! She's moving forward scheduling her pregnancy things with what's best for her, and you should move forward scheduling your wedding things with what's best for you. Of course you want your family there, but until she is officially pregnant, there's not much to worry about. It's not likely to happen on the exact same day, so just plan your life.

Thing is, if you move your date now and she doesn't get pregnant now, she may try again and your new date may interfere... Neither of you can stop your lives for each other. I say carry on and plan and if she does get pregnant, come back here and we will help you find a good way to address it!