my sister's (MOH) due date is my wedding date

Oh, if she's not pregnant yet, then she doesn't have a due date yet. Theres no guarantee it will even work.

I think it's rude for everyone else to say that OP's parents can just go to the hospital after the wedding. The birth of a (grand) child is a huge deal, and you all are being inconsiderate of her sister's feelings. If my mom wouldn't be there for the birth of my child, I would be upset. I need her there. I know it's also just as equally important, even more so, that they all are there at the wedding. This is a tricky situation, and I hope everything goes well.

So I think that fertility treatments are such a personal thing. But it honestly seems really awful of your sister to pick next week. Basically you either are awful for hoping it works and your family isn't at your wedding - or your awful for hoping it doesn't.

I would personally plan my wedding and let it shake out. Your sister and your parents are making choices. You can't force people to choose you.

Oh. I wouldn't also her to push it back. Lol

Oh. I wouldn't also her to push it back. Lol

Op don't cry Hunny!! You know what? I've known peeps who did invitro and it took several tries so the likelihood of her due date being your wedding day is low.

My parents were never present at my sisters kids births. Mom went afterwards.

But don't worry! It could take months for it to take!

OP - Is there a reason she has to do her insemination right now?

Jacky, I don't think it's rude at all for people to say the parents can go to the hospital after the wedding. The grandchild will still be there. The wedding is only happening once.

I would say move it at least 2 months before or after and not just by mere weeks. Due dates are never accurate unless she's getting a C-section

It's obvious a lot of posters know nothing about how difficult it is to schedule this type of insemination. Jordan said it best so I won't repeat her words. She can't just say, "Hey doc, August doesn't work for me. How about September?" Your sister is not selfish. Your sister has been dealing with a very heart rending issue. She needs all the support she can get and doesn't need any added stress. Pray that she does get pregnant. A child will mean so much for her and you'll get a niece or nephew!

And really....I don't think anyone is being rude or inconsiderate for having another suggestion that the parents go after the birth. It's a suggestion. No one is saying anything unkind. In my family the grandparents are rarely present at birth. Every family is different.

You could keep changing the date but it's still no guarantee it won't fall on her due date.

It's rude of everyone to say that her parent's don't have to be at the birth and that's it's "sucky" of them. It's not your place to say that. What if her sister wants her parents present? It's a milestone. Also, a medical condition. Sure, the grand child will still always be there, but so will the marriage.

And, I agree with the PP's above me; her sister is not selfish. Maybe she's been doing this for years? She's going through fertility treatment. Fertility treatment does not work around the convenience of others. When your body is ready for the insemination, you have to do it.

It would be nice if the parents were at the birth, but they do not HAVE to be there.

It would be nice if the parents were at the wedding, but they do not HAVE to be there.

Neither of these are rude. Both events are milestones.

Whoa. Why did Spazzy get flagged? There was truth in her statement.

Okay, I get where my post was harsh and I'll take back what I said. But just to clarify: not one person said she was selfish for wanting children or needing help with getting pregnant. Please don't turn anyone's words into something much crueler than what was actually said.

My guess is the f-bomb. Ugh. I agreed with it though.

Well, what I am trying to say is that to say that OP's parents are wrong, sucky, or obnoxious for wanting to be at the birth of their grandchild is just not for anyone's place to say. It's a personal matter. Both events are milestones, and that's what I was saying. I think it would be best just to not comment negatively about her parents, because I'm sure it's a really tricky situation to them, also, and maybe they really don't know what to do yet.

Yeah, some people flat out said she was selfish. One (double ring avatar) even said that she should reschedule. Once you start doing fertility treatments, you can't just put it off or reschedule it, or else you miss your chance.

Due dates are really just good guesses, it is VERY rare for a baby to come out on its exact due date, with the exception of induction of labor.

Don't worry until she is actually pregnant.

And due dates are super speculative. My FSIL is due in October and her due date has varied by almost 2 weeks depending on the ultrasound.

I personally don't think her parents suck but if the due date falls in the same day they could divide and conquer. OP's Dad could be with her to walk her down the aisle. And the labor could take hours right? The wedding could

Be over with before baby makes him or her entrance. Just saying

@Jacky I know people said she was selfish. I also said it, which I take back because it was overly harsh and not cool and I apologize to anyone I offended by saying that. In my post above, I was saying no one said she was selfish for wanting kids or for needing help getting pregnant. Of course she's not selfish for wanting kids. I doubt anyone thought that. I think some of us just (wrongly) jumped on the fact that she scheduled the insemination for when she did, but you and others are right that you don't always get to choose when the insemination happens.

Both are huge life experiences and no family member should have to chose. As a parent I would want to be at my daughters wedding and my grandchild's birth. I would hate to chose. Heck I would just want to be there when my niece was born. I would definitely change the wedding date if it won't cost a small fortune.