my sister's (MOH) due date is my wedding date

So I'm guessing she just found out she's pregnant? I personally would see what I could do to move things, but that's just me.

Your parents don't have to be there at the birth. They couldn't go after your wedding?

Its so complicated. She is doing in utero insemination. Shes planning on getting inseminated next week. It might not work. If it does she is due the same day as the wedding

I'm just freaking out... I have a very tight schedule (two jobs, full time student) So the date we has is perfect. After I'm out of school for the summer for a few weeks so I can decompress from finals then get into wedding mode.

I guess I'm just being whiny, I am obviously going to change the date if she gets pregnant. I am so excited for her, but so bummed out about changing everything for the wedding, and essentially starting from scratch

@ Mary I pretty much asked my mom if she would still come to the wedding, or else I would change it. I was crying on the phone. FW was trying to get me to eat because I was feeling so sick. My mom didn't answer the question so I assume her choice is the baby.

@ Jaci, I emailed my venue and officiant last night, but I havent heard anything. I should be ok once I have a back up plan. I'm a virgo, so all about them plans.

If she's not even pregnant yet, I wouldn't worry.

Check if changing the date is something that can be done. If so go for it

And even if she did get pregnant now, there's no reason to believe she'd deliver on your wedding date. The baby could come 3 weeks early, or 10 days late. Changing your wedding to accommodate your sister will only work if you plan on getting married in the next few months.

Wait to see if the insemination actually works.

There's no need to worry now, she's not even pregnant yet. Also by calling your parents you may be putting stress on them and on your sister. There's a reason she's undergoing fertility treatments and the last thing she needs is stress or to be reminded that it might not work. Just relax and see what happens. Plus you're far enough out where you can make adjustments but wait until AFTER she's pregnant. Things happen and you dont need to worry yourself or your family at this stage in the game.

Change your wedding date.

Ok you could change your wedding date, but it sounds like she is picking when she is getting pregnant and it sounds very inconsiderate in this case to do that when the due date will then be your wedding. Maybe I misunderstood, but if it doesn't stick I guess she will try again so changing your date might be a null point. I don't know how those appointments work, but have you considered talking to your sister about waiting a month? Again, if I misunderstand I am sorry and of there is also only certain times that it can be done she might not opt to. Either way I am sorry and I wish you the best.

I went through the exact same thing with my sister. I begged her to not have her due date within a week of the wedding. She ultimately told me where to go and that she wasn't planning her baby around a day. I get it, but I was more concerned for her not me. It is a lot to be in a wedding! In the end it worked out. The baby came early and we don't have to worry about her being 9 months pregnant and doing all kinds of running around on my wedding day. What will be will be, you can't change things that are out of your control. Wait and see what happens. Things have a way of working out.

Honestly, I wouldn't change. You obviously had your date before she even knows if she is pregnant. Why can't she change when she is to conceive? And also, I think thats sucky of your parents well mom. She could go to the hospital after the reception.

I agree with snow queen completely

@SnowQueen I wanted to say something similar but I didn't want to come off as insensitive. I don't know what the process is like to be inseminated but I was wondering why she was choosing to do it next week knowing that if it sticks she would be due on your wedding day and you already booked your wedding.

Um can she not change her date of getting "inseminated"... That's kinda selfish on her part to not reschedule hers when you obviously have already done your planning...

As she is not even pregnant I wouldn't worry about it. Artificial insemination doesn't always work and only 5% of babies are born on their due date. (This came from my doctor when I had my daughter on her due date) I know it's really hard to schedule things around being a full time student, mother and working full time. But to say it's inconsiderate of the sister is selfish. If the sister is struggling from infertility should you really be saying that? Not that she is, cause I don't know, but if she has asked a doctor you should know those doctors are extremely busy and have an EXTREMELY limited schedule, it's not like her sister had a pick of the week. It's more like: I have two dates open this month and ones at 9 am on a Tuesday and 3 pm on Thursday which do you want? My doctor is booked a year out!

Thanks for all the support guys. I really appreciate it. I am going to make a tentative back up plan with different dates. And see how the insemination goes. If need be I'll move the date. Just some other venting. It's kinda weird though that I gave my sister the option to just not be in the wedding party. And she was like no ill be in it. And then tells me not to plan it around her. Also my mom is trying to dictate the dress for my sister since she might not be able to go. She wants something she can return. And I want everyone to match. They tore me apart for my sister's wedding when I was in it. I wasn't allowed to cut my hair and they made me cover my tattoos. Oh and I ended up having to get two dresses because she didn't like the first one! I don't know what the deal is this time around.

She's not pregnant yet and you're worrying? While I hope it's successful for her, you're stressing far too soon.